Does everyone in your family know you work in the adult industry?
 

My wives parents do not know what we do. They have their ideas but really don't know 100%. My father in law is comming to visit surly by the end of the summer. With us only working the site for income they have questioned more then a few times how we are making money. I told my wife she will have to tell her dad some how and some way soon. But she just don't know how to break it to him. There is no way we can not work the site when he is here. It's just not possible. So he will have to be told. Her parents are not strict by all means but still would prefer their daughter to be working with her mind other then her body. Anyone ever have to deal with something like this? If so how did you go about it?

Everyone knows...including my grandmother (who Jim always seemed to accidentally attempt to tip off with business cards & t-shirts when he visited for various gatherings)

Yep, everyone has known since 96. My mother was proud and told everyone :)

I don't have a lot of family and none living close by but all of them are very glad that all I'm doing these days is marketing adult online entertainment.

everyone knows. in fact i recruited 1 of my daughters, 2 of her friends and my daughter in law as well to be cam girls and site whores.

we've always had open and honest conversations in my home, wherever it might be, which sometimes makes for um colorful small talk.

'ma, do you think the purple metalic dildo will show up better on cam than the hot pink one'

'ma, i was reattaching my fingernail with some crazy glue and accidently moved my toy before it dried completely now i have a dildo glued to my thumb'

'ma, do you think gramma would mind if i used her fox stole in a video with high heels and stockings'

lmao |thumb

I didn't even tell myself I worked in porn until last December.

|shocking|

docholly,
When ever you move to Sweden, don't forget to invite me over for ummm small talk |jackinthe


And yes, my family knows.

My family knows, but my wife's family doesn't.

My family is cool, her's is not cool.

Such is life.

over here everybody knows

I kinda get the feeling they talk about me a lot

6 months ago I went to a funeral on barbaras side
when I walked in the funeral home
a husband of a distant cusin that I never met before
pointed at me and said

Tommys Bookmarks right????


when I told my sister she said she already knew so like I said everybody talks

The only one that doesn't know is my mom. She thinks I build websites for business people, not porn. My husband and kids are cool with it, but mom, nope would just upset her so I won't tell her.
Why upset someone if you don't have to is my motto!

Fiance, my mom, my sisters...they're all cool with it...I figured I might as well tell them as they're the closest people to me.

My fiance's side doesn't know about it...they don't like me as is...the whole "porn" thing would freak them out. My older brother and older sister also don't know about it...both are idiots though.

Amazing thing is that my close nit group never speaks about it, but support me 100%. My mom and 2 sisters still haven't told my brother and older sister...kinda cool that they respected my wishes like that.

No one knows what I do - hell I still dont know what Im doing - maybe some day when I grow up Ill figure it out and tell someone :)

No one knows. I like it that way as it makes me feel dirtier. LOL.

My wife and a couple of friends know.

---art

Yep, family, friends...everyone knows :)

I say it loudly and proudly...I'm a porn slinger :D

Seriously though...I'm not at all ashamed of what I do...and if others can't deal with that...it's their issue not mine. Frankly, I think the world would be a better place if more people were open and honest about their sexual appetites.

For one thing...we probably wouldn't be having our current issue with these regs if certain people would come out of the closet about such things |dizzy|

My neighbors actually got much more friendly with me after I told a few of them what I do while we were all sitting around with no power for days on end after the last hurricanes.

Just think how even more close they will get after the next hurricane when I'm the only house on the block with power, A/C, and porn. :D

LMAO....Cleo!!

yeah they all know here, mom, friends inlaws...

Everyone here, including my neighbours know what I do... and the question they keep asking over and over is "How can I make money with porn?" Its funny really. I have never had to deal with anyone negative. People ask what I do, I tell them... I have some sites on the internet... gotta go. The hot bank tellers are always asking me what I do... ohh how I want to tell them the thruth! HAHA Jug, it will eventually come out. But you can always say you are doing internet marketing.. will buy you some time. Good luck!

Both of my parents are very strict Orthodox Christians, which in case none of you know, is much more strict than Catholicism without the incessant guilt.:)

They didn't really like the idea from the beginning; disliked it even more as time went by and NOW they see that I don't really go out partying anymore, I focus on work, I have no time for dilly dallying and have pretty much planted my ass in front of the computer for 10-15 hours a day at times. They've also noticed that I am not the pervert they suspected I was but in fact I treat this as a business rather than an outlet to feed my insatiable sexual appetite. |shocking|

All in all, I really don't care who knows. I am in this for the my own personal reasons and I am treating this as a business both long term and short.

As MrYum stated earlier, if they can't handle it, its their problem, not mine. |pimpin

Wow such a response. Well we know this is going to come out. I figure its going to be a nightmare. Being I left my job the only income we have is from the wives camshows. We are surly not rich so her taking off that work for 1 or 2 months is just not possible. I can only see it now. Her dad finds out and then she tells him while he is here. Hey dad you need to sit up stairs with him while I work in the room lol. I think I would be murdered after a short while sitting with him. Him knowing his little girl is downstairs on cam would eat him alive.
I explained to her she will need to explain it as a business in order to get them to at least be able to deal with it. Explain all the business stuff we do when she is not working the site. I think if her dad saw that his head would spin off lol.
My family hates that we both do this but my family has issues all their own lol and I never really took much of their advice so they just deal with me. What I really hate is the friends. They always look at us funny now durring the parties. They dont understand our porno jokes and Nicoles dirty mouth and overseas life really sets an interesting tone when she asks one of their wives if my friend has a large cock. lol. Then I have the 3 hour into the party and all the guys asking for free passes to the site lol. Just nuts.

Years ago while working with Jim, I was considering a move to a tropical island for 3 years and my mom said:

You're not doing porn are you?

And I said Yes.

She was speechless for a few weeks. I only wish I could find something else that would shock her like that again. :)

My Sister suspected, I never hid it. I told my nephew when he was 14 that I worked with adult websites and told my sister. In a court case in Palm Beach County, I was referred to as 'a local pornographer'.

Like Cleo, during the hurricanes, neighbors asked, I told them. Some had a problem, some didn't. However, since I'll have AC, computers, TV and power during the next hurricane, they might put aside their disdain.

I have to get my soundmeter out -- our city has an ordinance that allows 60db from the street, or 50db after 11pm. The city north of us has declined permits for dozens of fixed-install generators. Our city has said that during an emergency, they are not enforcing the law.

Some neighbors were a little upset when I fired up the generator and the outdoor lights which are on a timer came on. They all ran into their houses to check the power and came out dejectedly when they discovered they had no power.

Maybe its not the porn that created their dislike for me.

Wow Juggs, your predicament is substantially different than that of my situation. I'm trying to see it from every possible angle (no pun intended there) and to be quite honest, if I found out my beautiful and sexy daughter and her husband were doing what you and she are doing...I think you have a pretty good idea where THAT sentence ends - in prison, for 2nd degree. |shocking|

It all depends on how you are going to present this to her parents. IF you give her the impetus and let her take the "bull" by the horns so to speak and if she sticks to her convictions, they your wounds won't be as severe.

If however she is not a strong character with her parents, you are in trouble. You will be looked upon as the scapegoat and depending on what natioanlity they are, this won't bode well for you.

You and your wife are gonna have to have to sustain a united front. Perhaps showing them that is opportunity has some serious up$ide to it. That means no chinks in the armour. The will of both of you collectively as ONE must outlast any emotional outburts or derision from her parents. Its the only way you too can have any hope of standing up to them. Remember, she may be your wife, but she is FOREVER their little girl and I am certain this NEVER entered their minds.
:(

Best of Luck Juggs. I mean that sincerely.

In the porn biz you are not supposed to have time for friends

:D

Thank you and I agree. I'm trying to look at this from all angles. Shit if anyone thinks as a husband I don't have issues with what my wife does, then they are crazy. So I can only imagine what a mom or dad would think. Me? I would totally be an ass if I did not say from a parents point of view, I would not want my child in this industry. But I do not have kids and can only think of the feelings one would have once they found out.
I get along with her parents but I have this feeling that after this, we won't be talking much. I think they are going to blame me, when in fact none of this was my idea lol. I had a great job for the next 20 years, no debt, great pay and a wonderful single life. But they don't know that lol. I guess the only thing I can do at this point is sit back for the ride and just be supportive. My wife is a handful I can only imagine her parents. I have only spent like 1 month with them. lol. Oh man the next few months will have me climbing the walls in worry.

Hmmm...you neglected to mention that she was all for this. Perhaps then they must be somewhat aware of her wild tendencies and therefore should not even think to put the blame squarely on your shoulders.

Your situation is very delicate indeed a sort of damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Let me ask you, do you have a contigency plan?
Could your webcam biz take a turn for the 'racier' than anticipated side? What if this potential storm with the in-laws subsides and then the cash really starts flowing in? Are you BOTH involved in the decision making processes here?
I don't want to make you feel nervous or insecure in anyway but YOU must somehow have YOUR ASS covered. I'm not trying to put down your wife at all - hear me out here. You did say you feel you are kind of along for the 'ride' so to speak. That you had a secure source of income for the next 20 years?

Seems like you've compromised yourself for the oldest trick in the book. :) Not to worry. You are going to have to develop a contingency plan for you, Juggs. Obviously something is not proper within you. If you are comfortable in this situation then I apologize for jumping the gun here. If not, think where this might be headed. There are usually Three possible outcomes: The Good. The Bad. Or The Ugly. *cue the spaghetti western music*

Of course they know she is crazy lol. Heck she left her country and came here for me. She had no reason to leave there, so yes they know.

We are both involved in the decision making process. Are goals, are for her not to work on the site as a host. If by luck of the gods our site was to take off next month and the money is rolling in we would like to think that the money would be more then enough of a reason to them as to why we are doing this. The plan for me? Well I don't know about most guys who are married. This is my first time and we have only been married for 1 year. I will not BS you. It's hard. And being in this business makes it harder. No pun intended. We have had major almost violent blow outs due to this business. Having men want to constantly date or be in contact with your wife day after day will try any mans confidence in his love for her and her for him. But we always fix thos issues as soon as they come up and always make sure to talk about what freaked us out. As far as a back up plan if things go sour. I can always go back to my government job (20 year paycheck). Well not always but I can return to government service with my same pay and benefits package as long as it's with in 5 years of when I left. Would hate to do it but if needed, will deal with that nightmare. In the sence of the business I am not along for the ride lol. Its the other way around for me, or at least I feel that way. I do work here all day at this darn computer. The site is the only thing that will keep me from going crazy. I do everything other then the cam shows lol. I'm not saying they are easy, cause lord kknows they are tough on her. But trying to get a site off the ground, well everyone here knows that violin story.

I am comfortable in how things are. I'm not comfortable with her not telling her parents. I like them and got the impression they would have issues with what we are doing but would be able to deal with it, without a major out burst. I keep telling her to tell them now so it can be over with and any healing can begin. For me the worste thing that would happen is her parents would not want to talk with her anymore. If that were to happen the site would come down. And I would start wakeing up at 4:30am again, not going to bed at 3:30 am lol. I love my wife with every ounce and she loves me. The amount of shit we have been threw I can only judge on my past relationships. If thats any measure of secuity then I can be assured we are truly meant for each other.
LOL well I guess I really like this board as I have just posted so much personnal info lol.

my sister Mary handles sometimes the reviews for me - I'm also thinking to get her to work more on my stuff once her son will start to go to school; she'll probably have enough spare time to help her big brother :)

I lost everyone to cancer so so young... I have only a sister left, she knows that but she is sortof prude. Least of my worries.

big hugs to digifan

|peace|

maybe I'll also get Mary to join the board as well ;)

My kid brother died of cancer 15 years ago in March. After my folks, its just me and my cat. I keep getting told to find someone to get married with and that doing this will not help that me with that.

I know this: that when its all said and done, if I have not lived my life on my terms, I will not have a settled soul when its all over. And believe me, I really don't want to be haunting anything or anyone.
|ghost|

Yes, everyone in my family knows :)

Noone knows. When I quit my regular job I told my parents (who live 800 miles away) that I took a job with an online casino in webmaster support. They're retired, don't live around me and in their 60's so I plan to leave it at that.

My best friend since childhold is the only one that knows, who also lives 800 miles away. Friends where I live now do not know but one of my closer ones suspects it. He jokes all the time I have to get up in the morning to make the porn. :D

well at various times, my daughter etc have had to deal with inlaws, mostly very uptight prudish jamaicans.. --it's that uk influence--

but as the primary income producer likewise they couldn't stop working to 'entertain' so they became 'on-line customer service' agents, who had to work in privacy.

depending on how your living facilities are set up, if she has a special room set aside, etc.. and you dont want to come clean on this particular visit..then just sit him down and say, 'i telecommute but because the camera, microphone pick up every noise, i must have total silence in the room' then hang a sign on the room--meeting in session.

|cool|

Everyone who asks me what I do knows what I do. I think that some aunts and cousins think I've been unemployed for the last three years, which is fine with me. My wife's parents don't know, at least I don't think that they know. Maybe they do... My wife's stepmother is a holy-roller and I just don't want to deal with her. I don't avoid telling someone due to embarassment. I'm not embarassed at all. It's just a matter of feeding people something they have the ability to digest.

they all know and they all have a laugh about it each and every time

I haven't told anyone in my family, but I have told a few close friends. They didn't know what to think. Now after half a year they think I am wasting my life...fucking joke. And they were my close friends I should say.

This is really hard for me to lie to people about, as everyone that knows me knows that I had absolutely ZERO interest in computers or chat rooms or anything like that. Oh I guess I did have computer experience, but all excel, word, and power point. Prior to my porn business adventure, when I would get home from my real job, I would hop on my bike or go play tennis or work in the yard or just be outside...period. So they are not buying it that I would rather work on the computer than in a lab.

And my wifes side of the family has some knowledgable computer people, so I can't just feed them the I work in online marketing. My wifes cousin, who she used to be very close to prior to my business adventure, works in technical support for computer software and I am pretty sure she knows what a whois info check means. She just thinks I am playing games at home all day doing nothing.

So I guess I will just sacrifice being the loser in my and my wifes family, cause we all (webmasters) do work very long hours and the fuck if I am just going to throw that all away.
I just hope some day that financial security will come, to justify what has happened.

Sorry for the long rant, wish I could have just said Yeah everybody knows and they support me 100%

Very very good advice. It wont work tho as the house we live in is a 1 bedroom condo with a loft so its kind of all open space and only 1k worth of it. I think what I'm going to have my wife do is tell him before he comes here. She roughly has till August and I think that would be plenty of time to iron this all out. Besides they are 6k miles away and that should make things just a little easier or at least make my wife feel safer in that they cant or wont be able to yell at her face. I have sat with her dad a few times and really got the impression that a inteligent man that he is will be able to understand the business side of it. I also think he will respect it. I know they would not have any problems with this if she was not working the site. IE she was helping more in the business side of things. Im sure my screwed up brain will figure out something. Heck if it comes down to it. Ill call the bro and borrow the cash for the two months needed to cover us. At least this way we can tell them she only does the business end of it. Let them think we are successful webmasters. Wait are we? I once heard that getting a pay site up and running and receiving one sale is called successful lol.

juggernaut

I am sorry I dont mean any offence but ....
I dont think this isnt gonna go over good

your wife does nude cam shows
they are gonna think the absolute worst

and like you said its gonna be pretty uncomfortable when shes doing her shows and your stuck with the inlaws

I have a daughter, I am in this buisness
if this was my daughter I would kill you

My parents know - my kids know.
Not sure about my brothers though, had the family reunion last weekend, that was the first time I'd seen two of them in 2 years. If mom told them, fine, I don't care.
Neighbors know I work online, and a few friends around here have Marks-links bookmarked.. :)