? about being a porn webmistress becoming public knowledge
 

My question about being a porn webmistress becoming public knowledge centers around finding a search term that connects me to my porn website empire (only a few sites are populated ... and a couple of them poorly ... LOL!!! ... but I'm having fun :-) and the connection is too imbedded to break.

Are there others who publicly declare I am a porn webmaster and I'm a good person? ~ well shoot ~ that didn't come out right (Which is better; self disclosure before some one "finds out" or if {when} some one does, shrug my shoulders and say ... so? ;-)

Thanks for all the advice in advance |bow| |thumb |bow|

I remember telling my Mother way back. It wasn't fun but at least she stopped getting me teaching jobs. :) As for anyone else, I just size them up really quick. If they look like they can handle it, I tell them the truth. If not, I do internet marketing. If someone already knows, it's too late.

LOL!!!! Thanks Jim! I already told my Mom. If Dad was still in the physical realm, he'd be so proud ...

It IS all relative ;-) and not in that sense (-: now, off to work I go :-)

I tell all my classmates at Bible school.

Well... I do not hide the fact I sling porn for a living from my friends, but some family members will never know if I can help it. As Jim said, I just try to gauge if they can take it or not. Other than that, I don't just disclose the information to everyone that asks what I do for a living.

When the people at the bank ask me, I always just say "internet marketing" or "i build websites". :D

I tell people I work with the poor :D

I tell anyone who's interested.
No point lying or hiding it - I'm very proud to do what I do.
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I guess that's the first place I oops'ed ... my business name and DBA on my checks ... Emc2Passion ... and I do Internet Marketing and Web Design :-)

Freedom ~ what a wonderful thing |bow| |thumb |bow| May all your days be wondrously wow! and ... have fun out there.

I guess it all depends on who you want to tell... I too use the "Internet marketing" or "consulting" thing when the bank asks about all those checks... or when neighbors ask too many questions... and of course on my taxes - lol

And my husband loves to blab about it to his friends at work... half of them look @ me like I'm a disgusting pervert (and their wives too... that's the tough part - the way those wives look at me at company functions) and the other half thinks its cool I make hubby go to porn conventions and wants me to hook them up with a porn star - BOTH are SOOOO far off the mark of what I actually do that it isn't even funny. Most times I wish he'd never said anything to any of them.

My dad figured out what I do and he seems to be cool with it although we never really discuss it and my siblings know what I do - in fact my brother recently started working in the biz as well - lol

I tell nobody. If the person mentions porn 3 times within the first 15 minutes of our convo then ok I'll let the cat out of the bag. I went to an actors house the other day. I was to help him with a myspace adder. Come to find out he was on days of our lives for a couple years. He mentions porn a few times. I am trying to be professional with our meeting. Then the guy mentions porn again. So what the hell I'll show him some sites I made. It was pretty funny. He appreciated it.
As a rule I tell no one though. I do internet marketing.That my story and I'm sticking to it. There are some threads in the SEO section to help you with the lingo.

I agree it depends on who you want to know about what you do for living.

When average people ask I just say "Im a web designer" so I keep them happy and they ussualy reply "wow this young lady is such an example". LOL!

My mother and my grandma still think this is sick and they always tell me why dont I get a real job. Then its my boyfriend, who is cool with it moslty because of the $, but he's starting to hate this too because he cant help but compare his penis size with the guys from the porn movies all the time

I use the same "I make websites" to certain people also and it works fine.

My mom always gets after me to quit, so she is not thrilled with what I do but still loves me :D

I figure it's up to me who I tell and that is how I handle it |thumb

My friends, boyfriend, and his mom all know and think it's pretty cool - the bf even helps out from time to time. :) My mom had a hard enough problem realizing I was supporting myself with working online, so I had to deal with the 'do you have a real job yet' speech every time we talk. I can't say that I'm very much inclined to mention any of this part of it to her lol. I could only imagine the ranting then. :/

Hell, I can't drive through the drive through at my bank without the girls commenting on the new "actress" that cashed her check that morning and asking if I’m boning the girl that just happens to be in my truck |boobies|– my sisters won’t ride with me anymore.

I did think long and hard before I even started this because the impact it might have on my other businesses – long story short - the little head won!

Most of my family knows - did I mention that most of them are Mormons - they just don’t talk about it. My younger brother wishes he could join me but he’s a Col in the Air Force and well, it just wouldn’t work – would be fun though as we look enough alike to pass as twins.

I do get a huge kick out of telling prude church fucks that I screw teens on camera for a living |shocking|- especially when I’m wearing one of my t-shirts for our new “Bring Me Your Sister” site – “got a sister’? :D

Relax, it’s only sex.

And I get to work with poor church girls..... The best of both worlds!|headbang|

I'm going to hell|yawn|

I'll have a spot saved just for you :). See ya there

My wifes family are all convinced that I'm going to hell and taking her with me

i film pissing girls and i have no shame :) i am who i am, i do what i do. if you dont like it, thats your problem!

My folks can't stand it .. but .. of course my mom loved her new mercedes I gave her for a gift last xmas ....... |thumb

Exactly, when they start seeing good money rolling in they at least give it a second thought.

My friends I tell are jealous cause they know I goof off all day and make much more than they do. For family I still use 'internet marketing' though.

Thank you, thank you, thank you all |headbang| I knew I'd get the right answer here |bananna|

I am who I am, I do what I do ... and lovin' every minute of it ...

LOL!!! Good bumper sticker / button ... "Havin' fun now, ask me how"

It is what it is...I don't tell people because no one asks...I've had a few friends though that found some scribbled notes on my desk and did some research and were trippin...one was looking at one of my sites and didn't know what my connection was to the site but clicked on a link and saw a variation of my name in the link when it came up and almost shit himself. He wants in on the action...but I tell them the truth, which is that it's more than just pussy and beer, it's actually accounting, creativity, dedication, and discipline...most are all talk...my wife just doesn't want her family to find out...other than that, we could give a fuck...

You really do just have to use your best judgement with who you tell. Why work people up when you can say internet marketing or web developer? I told my dad about it and he pretty much told everyone in the neighbourhood and most of the family, we all just ignore the fact.

I'm more uncomfortable when people ask to see my sites. Usually they are impressed if I do end up showing them off, but something about it just seems strange to me.

-A

I judge by whether or not they deserve the truth, and whether or not it will activate any stalker/creepy tendancies and become a safety issue -- and even then I soft-pedal the fact that I'm "talent" and generally stick to "I run a few sites". Strangers/neighbors/bank tellers get "internet marketing."

Whether or not those who get the truth get "uncomfortable" doesn't really matter to me.

Yep...they don't need that much honestly, lol.

The odd "friend of a friend" got just a LITTLE too excited for awhile about knowing "Mina" personally, but eventually when I never comfirmed any of their sterotypical assumptions about "webgirls", they got over it.

Otherwise, most worth the truth know just enough, don't want details, and that suits me fine. My parents have had their moments but seem to prefer to focus their thoughts on the fact that I can support and take care of myself honestly, without being beholden to anyone. And the fact that I present what I do (with the limited explanation I offer) as the business it is and don't act like a hooker probably helps. Presentation makes a big difference, in my experience.

Well, my start in the biz was a bit different, or maybe not, back in '96 I had just sold a deli business and was sitting around my apartment when the adult bookstore owners across the street from my fathers hobby shop asked what I was doing. When my dad told them nothing, they asked to speak with me and offered me a managers job (more like all around everything job) I said what the hell as the pay was great for what I was doing. From that position, I was able to get into some very high places in the sex sellers biz. I have been to the the factory of Nass-Toys in NYC and sat at a 20 seat conference table with 1000 different dildos and toys hanging on the wall with women demonstrating their uses and in that same factory Id watch Fetish videos being shot. It was all a trip. That being said, its much more of a "hassle" to hide the fact that you run an adult shop than anything I do online. Friends thought it was great cause I always had the latest videos and I became an in house cockbuster rental agency without late fees or charges. My mom was fine with it, and thats all that mattered to me. It was good $$ and she knew I was doing it as a biz.

After the shop sold (that was why I was hired, to bring up profits) I delved into online porn, but I also did non adult web design, so I had the out .." I do web design" and when theyd ask to see my sites I just sent them to my non adult site for my portfolio. I have friends that know I do it, and anyone who I care to tell. but because of my history with the shop, its old hat, and everyone knows that I know porn.

My close family knows, others know I Design web sites. I mean it is what it is and there is $$ to be made, and if people didnt want it we all wouldnt have a job, so its gotta be OK.

J-

|jester|

Haha... funny story here. |whisper| Thus far I have been telling my parents and family that I do internet marketing and web design. Unfortunately my dad thinks everyone in life is trying to lie to him and screw him over so he checks up on me incessantly. |swordfigh I guess the other day he looked up the address of the office and found links to some of the porn sites. |noclue| Oh well... guess the cat's out of the bag now.

All my friends know. They wouldn't be my friends if they were so up tight they didn't approve of what I do. A jobs a job and I happen to luv mine. |nahnah| Anyone who thinks I'm a skank because of it can kiss my sexy ass.

I'ts just a matter of time before he shows up at my door with a shotgun.....

Answer the door dressed as a suicide bomber, chances are he won't want to pull the trigger.

LOL. I'm glad I wasn't taking a drink when I read this... :D

My family and in-laws all know and don't care much. It's a cultural thing, maybe, I'm not sure, we're all very secular and liberal, and porn isn't much of an issue. When it comes to friends, specifically people whose kids go to school with my kids, I am a tad more careful. Simply because I want to be the one telling this to my sons, not some kid at school (they're just 4 and 6, so plenty of time ;)). Some friends do know, others don't. It's not something I shout off the rooftops, as I also don't think it's a huge deal. People are very curious about my business and how I make money on the Internet, but fortunately, I can always talk for hours on the mainstream side of my business :)

Me too or i'd be getting a bill for a keyboard and monitor. |jester|

I am proud of my ability to work from home and earn good money.

If someone doesn't like it then thats just too bad for them :)

I have a business credit card which I pay for most of my dining with...

The name of my company is Evil Empire Inc.

WHen they ask I tell people I sell pornography.

There was a time that I used to really enjoy telling people what I do online, but not anymore. One of my crazy-fuck neighbors hadn't had his medication one day and began screaming at me and accusing me of stealing his bike. (No papagmp - I did not have sex with that man's bike.) Of the many things he yelled at me in front of my kids was, "I'LL HAVE THE COUNTY D.A. HERE IN AN HOUR AND WE WILL FORCE YOU OUT OF TOWN BECAUSE (long pause) YOU WERE WEARING A PORN SHIRT!!! That's when I realized that I don't want everyone to know. I simply don't have a large enough yard to bury every stupid cocksucker who thinks I'll let him get away with hollering at me in front of my kids.

My wife is co-owner of the site, and my family does too. Not a big deal, since it brings in extra money. The marketing lessons have helped me with work in the normal world, although sometimes I have to give a roundabout explanation on how I know or come up with things.... usually from having a friend in a far away country who once ran a business...|escape|

|jester| - I have a large enough compost in my garden for the both of our needs...... Someone already put a nasty little letter in my neighbor’s mailboxes - that's when I increased the size of the compost.

What bike :D

i just try to remember that.....the person judging just has a small mind.