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Simmer down now. Ask him specifically what he meant. I think you are running away with this now. I realize that it can be upsetting, but you aren't even sure what the exact issue was. And just because they rejected one, doesn't mean they're blacklisting you.

Calm down and think about a bit. You'll be fine. I'm sure kit will continue to list your sites. Just contact him and find out what he considers aggressive. Usually it's a 'click here' on the index that isn't associated with a graphic banner.