See, I'm in a really shitty position on all this - and it's not just the friends aspect of things - I can completely see both sides of the problem and while calling or emailing him that you were behind would have been the better thing to do, I can also see why you posted because I know these things happen with Link Lists.
And MML is a PERFECT example when you take LOR out of the equation - his job is to maintain 20+ link & tgp admins each week that he does NOT get paid a salary for. He gets a cut of those sites just like you. If he posted that Chubby Links was 6 days behind & that we was gonna clean it up that weekend without telling me personally, I'd have been quite upset.
Yes, the admin didn't do what it was supposed to do.
Yes, I completely understand how you felt on that subject.
Yes, I would have also been throwing my hands up in the air as well.
Personally, I would have probably just quit in private & moved on (and that's not meant as me thinking that your post was you "quitting")
I understand that you took on the offline job & that's great, but you can't throw out the "if he would have called me a couple weeks ago" when he did call, he did email & he did snailmail.
He called again yesterday & left you a message (and not by my urging) and PM'd you. Apart from him driving to your house, I really have no other idea how he could've contacted you
If you want to leave it the way it is, that's fine with me - as long as your anger towards him does not come out on the board - I can't have that & I think you know this.