Toby's pretty much got it all there for ya
Tour first, everything else second.
We'll be more than happy to give you plenty of help and advice on getting the tour in order. There are a few suggestions already, and I think the most important was UW's about keeping the amateur feel. It will also make your life as a webmistress easier
The people who can bring you real traffic won't even take notice unless they see a tour that they believe will convert their traffic.
That means putting a little something in for every niche you want to be promoted in and carefully choosing your free samples. The flash tour will turn off a lot of people, but don't be discouraged at all. Your work so far looks really nice, it's just a little bit off target.
I think you've got some real potential and a chance to hit hard in a good niche.