Well letting a 16 year old have sleep overs is messed up in my book. But I don't judged what other parents do, as it's their kid. As far as holding hands, the fact that your mom freaked out is really sad. I think that is an innocent as can be. I would not read anything into that as your daughter is only 14. Hell my best friend and I hug and hold hands when were out all the time. It's close friendship is all. I do believe your born to be what you turn out to be. No one can make you be bi, gay or lesbian. To bad you and your mom are not talking, I'm sure that is upsetting for you. I applauded you for standing your ground though
