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Well Sue it will get better, but 1st you have to get him out of where he is. Jail is a good wake up call but at that age a few days should do the job. My parents never did that to my brother and I know I have heard them saying maybe they should have. You son is not condemed to this life. He is young and the felonies mean nothing if he is not convicted. He will still be able to get a job, and hell I know many people would dis-agree but if worse comes to worse the military is always an option. I have seen it clean up gang bangers first hand. But I wont go there just saying it's an option. The reason I told you about him telling the courts that he has a problem is not to teach him to lie or pay for the wrong things he has done. It's only to allow you as a family to start repairing this. My family is fine now, but durring that time it was ripped apart due to my brothers actions. You can stop this. My brother often says if my parents took a more active role (IE riding his ass 24/7) he might not have ended up like this. He does not blame them or anyone else, he just wishes at a time when he was dumb and thought he knew everything he had a stong adult figure to force him in a differant direction. You have made the 1st step in opening his eyes as to your feelings about what he is doing. Let's not forget, if he was selling out of your house and the place got raided you could have lost that along with your son. Your next step is to keep him out of jail and have the courts force rehab on him, after that probation might help, but it's up to your whole family to support this. Ride his ass like cheap pony, everyone had to. Don't let him forget what has happened and what can happen if he falls off track. And most of all keep him away from the bad friends. If you can talk to any friends he has or had who do not deal with drugs. Let them also know you and he need their help. Good luck to you, try to sleep even tho you wont. Life goes on as long as you work together as a family you can get though it, lots of families have.
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