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sue-fl · 2006-07-14, 12:59 PM

Well this thread has taken on quite a life of it's own. Seeing people argue, people bashing is not what I hoped for when I posted this.

JoeBlack is right I started this post, so had to expect some strong opinions. Also when a thread gets this long, it takes to much time to read all the posts, so a lot of people miss important things that have been said.

First off thanks to Jel! He had taken the time to tell me his story in private which really helped me a lot. He didn't have to post it here but he did and Jel I appreciate it very much.

Ok here goes:
I posted this the night I turned my son it. I was a basket case, and hurting badly. I have seen the support on this board for others, and know how many good people there are here. I needed to get it out, and was not ready at the time to tell the family especially my other two kids who love their brother very much. So that was the reason for the post.

The facts:
I have given my son many chances, did all I could think to do for him.

When he was arrested the first time, I stood behind him, got him out, got him help most important of all loved him. As you can see it did not work.

You know I have raised three kids, in a loving home, with discipline, and respect. You people must realize there are kids no matter how they were raised go bad, and don't want to change no matter what you do or what kind of help you get them. My son is one of those kids.

My son is not in prison he will be if he doesn't decide to change though. He is in county jail, they way it works here is that is where you go at first. If you've done something that will require less than three years that is where you'll stay. He is also in medical ward, the same as last time he was in there. This ward is very segregated, they aren't even allowed outside. So no my son is not with murders and rapists as some of you seem to think. He's not with good people either, but it's not anything like you see on tv that happens in the big house.

I did not just get frustrated and throw him in there.

I did all I could to not go that route with no luck.

He was NOT just smoking pot, he was selling it and it didn't take him long to add pills to it also, who knows what was next.

I think he was in danger on the streets doing this. As I said he is young so thought nothing of bragging about it and flashing his money. This was told to me by a friend of his who was worried about him.

He's 18 and thinks nothing will happen to him, that was one of my biggest worries.

The fact that he looked me right in the eyes and said yeah mom I sell drugs and it's good money told me a lot.

He had a great job and damn lucky he had it. Not only that he made more than enough money as he was living at home. No I didn't want to put him in porn with me, he had a job. I do porn yes, but would not feel comfortable sitting with him and going threw porn.

Once again I appreciate the support it has been tremendous here on the board, and in private. The others have the right to disagree but some of the low blows have been uncalled for in my opinion. But I'm a firm believer in if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen. I just don't want people here fighting and me to be the cause of it.

A lot of you say you'd never do what I did. I hope you are never in the situation I'm in and have to decide what steps you would take. Peace!

2006-07-14, 12:59 PM	#75
sue-fl You can now put whatever you want in this space :) Join Date: May 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 2,837	Well this thread has taken on quite a life of it's own. Seeing people argue, people bashing is not what I hoped for when I posted this. JoeBlack is right I started this post, so had to expect some strong opinions. Also when a thread gets this long, it takes to much time to read all the posts, so a lot of people miss important things that have been said. First off thanks to Jel! He had taken the time to tell me his story in private which really helped me a lot. He didn't have to post it here but he did and Jel I appreciate it very much. Ok here goes: I posted this the night I turned my son it. I was a basket case, and hurting badly. I have seen the support on this board for others, and know how many good people there are here. I needed to get it out, and was not ready at the time to tell the family especially my other two kids who love their brother very much. So that was the reason for the post. The facts: I have given my son many chances, did all I could think to do for him. When he was arrested the first time, I stood behind him, got him out, got him help most important of all loved him. As you can see it did not work. You know I have raised three kids, in a loving home, with discipline, and respect. You people must realize there are kids no matter how they were raised go bad, and don't want to change no matter what you do or what kind of help you get them. My son is one of those kids. My son is not in prison he will be if he doesn't decide to change though. He is in county jail, they way it works here is that is where you go at first. If you've done something that will require less than three years that is where you'll stay. He is also in medical ward, the same as last time he was in there. This ward is very segregated, they aren't even allowed outside. So no my son is not with murders and rapists as some of you seem to think. He's not with good people either, but it's not anything like you see on tv that happens in the big house. I did not just get frustrated and throw him in there. I did all I could to not go that route with no luck. He was NOT just smoking pot, he was selling it and it didn't take him long to add pills to it also, who knows what was next. I think he was in danger on the streets doing this. As I said he is young so thought nothing of bragging about it and flashing his money. This was told to me by a friend of his who was worried about him. He's 18 and thinks nothing will happen to him, that was one of my biggest worries. The fact that he looked me right in the eyes and said yeah mom I sell drugs and it's good money told me a lot. He had a great job and damn lucky he had it. Not only that he made more than enough money as he was living at home. No I didn't want to put him in porn with me, he had a job. I do porn yes, but would not feel comfortable sitting with him and going threw porn. Once again I appreciate the support it has been tremendous here on the board, and in private. The others have the right to disagree but some of the low blows have been uncalled for in my opinion. But I'm a firm believer in if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen. I just don't want people here fighting and me to be the cause of it. A lot of you say you'd never do what I did. I hope you are never in the situation I'm in and have to decide what steps you would take. Peace!