Thanks for your answers/input Preacher!
I understand you viewpoint in regards to the tabs thing - but the way I look at it the harsh truth of starting a Link List to day is that most submitters either seem to submit to the top 30 link lists or they use the shotgun approach with submitting to 200 hundred where my LL gets included.
Therefore I'm having a hard time going the route of stroking my submitters dick (we're in adult

) because frankly I'm not sure they'll stick around because I can send 10 hits more their way.
When I look at things now it seems a bit crazy to be spending like half an hour every day on reviews + time on adding sponsors/keeping up with your links and then bam - $1k after one year of that. I know we're building for the future but right now my payment/hour looks pretty bad

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My advice to people thinking about starting a link list: Do not start a standard Link List with just free sites - rather make some kind of hybrid site that has more pages and more ways for you to get traffic.