RE: why some new members don't post more:
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My quess, fear of getting flamed. While sometimes the flamage is deserved it's not always easy to tell, especially if you don't read every post. Frequently it's just plain mean spirited.
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Originally Posted by Jim
I just sent an email to people that have signed up, posted a few times and then never posted again. This is a flame proof thread  We really are doing things to make changes. And Sparky is hard at work on a couple of board projects that will help a lot of things. |
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I'll raise my hand as one of the new members who posted (once?) and didn't post again... for me, it has nothing to do with this board at all. I have had several absolutely fantastic experiences so far and I have basically stopped visiting anywhere else because of the general "vibe" here.
I do notice some gruff posts and I see what some people are saying about the treatment of newbies, but so far, what I've seen doesn't generally hold a dim candle to the stadium lighting that is the rudeness of other places I've been!! For me, the overwhelming sense of "goodness" here (that sounded weird) made me quickly comfortable and has helped me all but delete the bookmarks to other places.
Now, why am I not posting... well, I'm not a heavy poster anyway, mostly since I am far more in the mode of listening than talking in this industry. There is an immense amount of info here and I hate to be the guy posting questions that have already been answered. However, I really think I got the desire to post on adult webmaster forums beaten out of me by posting on other boards and ultimately getting obliterated by massive jerks. Not tiny jerks... these jerks were massive.
I might have considered myself to be whining, had I not settled down and come back to post again later only to be smacked down again... rinse, repeat. Now, admittedly, the most flaming done on adult boards seems to be against anyone they think is spamming or doing something inappropriately self-serving. The fact is, I think it's often quite difficult to prove you're honest when you have a new board account. It takes a while to get accepted in the community.
So... I think I'm just gun shy to some extent. It's gotten me to be even less eager to post than I already was... which means I went from lurker to Super Lurk Master.
I really like this place.
- I like all the subforums just as they are, since I can drill right down and get at exactly what I want right away.
- I think the wealth of information here is incredible.
- There are vastly more friendly folks than gruff buttheads... and even many people who don't just run around being nicey-nice are still very helpful, even if it's more of a "tough love" thing.
...sorry, that got a little long.
Thanks for inviting us to post, Jim.