There are a few link lists that are way behind with reviews, and I mean over a year behind.
One example is FetishPhiles. I still submit there regularly even though I've never been listed. Over a hundred freesites with a recip on each one. A while back I PM'd the owner here and asked if there was a problem. He explained that he is way behind with reviews, so hopefully at some point I'll start to see those old freesites get a new boost. Actually, it's been a while since that last PM.
Best thing to do is to ask here if reviews are behind on a particular link list, and then maybe PM the owner/reviewer to ask if all is okay.
If you post the link list names somebody should be able to tell you if they won't be listing you - I've had to drop several over the last six months once it was confirmed here that they no longer function as a "proper" link list.
I wouldn't take the recip off at all unless you know for sure that you haven't been listed -
and won't be listed in the future.
In my opinion it's just not worth the trouble to go back and edit unless you have a particular gripe with that link list owner.
Damn that was longer than I expected.