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Originally Posted by stuveltje
hahaha lol i do understand you totally girl, you have your own paysite and you wanna give the truth to you surfers, i totally i agree with that, but now the difference, what if you had underage kids.....you deal with them at school...school will ask questions, what is the job of your mom or dad? I tell my kids ...just tell them truth, i make websites...if they ask what kind of websites, say adult...and realy thats all they know....i have a hubby with a very good paid job in a totally differend thing, i can hurt his job with my job, this adult bizz is totally different if you are both in this world without kids, you can do all what you want, but having a hubby in an other job and kids, this bizz is a totally different issue. To be real if girls like you didnt make their own payite, coders like me wont have a job, but dont say its easier for coders, you can say that if your both (with friend or spouses and without kids )are in this bizz. Even there where months i made more money then my hubby, i would never hurt his job issue, reasen why, he is certain of his job, even in bad times he will get the same amound paid every month, for me, i depend on the sponsors and my bosses...totally differend.Oh and Kat believe me i have all the respect for you and i think you are a hot woman! i just know about certain things because my grandma was a hooker and a webcam...na girl i wont say, but very very old granny will fit better  and some friends are adult performers too...........dont ask (and mainstream, they wont pay to dutchies so i dont do mainstream) |
See that is where I think our 2 cultures differ, is in the children area. Here in the US, unless you have a lot of money, and if schools find out that you are in porn, they call CPS (children protective services) and usually take your kids. Then you have to fight to get them back. Prove that your kids are not in the same room as your work...it is hell. Then if the parents are divorced and one is an ass....we have seen it fuck them over so bad.
Then if you are doing it out of your own house, they will get zoning codes in to shut you down and run you out. It is really like the Salem witch trials of the 1600s
I'm not sure of how your local culture handles it and views it. I know that porn is normally looked down on no matter where you go, but I don't know how strict the attitudes are.
So what you tell them, is that you are a stay at home mom. You give very general answers....website admin...contractor.....never anything that they can pin you down with. Which really sucks, because I was brought up to be honest and frank, pretty much like you handle it. Boy it is hard, because I SUCK at lying....
You also have an insight into the life of a sex worker that many of other promoters/coders do not have, which really helps with how you handle things and your attitude.
There is no way we would have kids, for one we are too selfish, and what parents face while being in porn here in the US. I have seen many parents handle it and I won't want to do what they do.
After I quit my last job before we moved, a former disgruntled employee called in anonymously about my site....I worked for a big company that is very bible based....oh shit, it was a good thing that I was no longer with them. I would've been fired and in the papers. But my bosses directly over me, backed me up and called that former employee out. But I would never be able to work for them again if they opened a location out here.
Until we moved to Oregon, I have been working mainstream as a business manager for last 12yrs and we have been online since 2000. So my site was definitely a risk to all of my jobs and my volunteer work. Torn quit his job years ago but he quit caring about the effect on him years ago, more concerned about the effect of it on me.