I realize that I'm not the most experienced reviewer here, or the most popular, or anywhere near successful at this game, but I do know a thing or two about killing a link list. Boy, do I!
Submitters don't kill a link list; rules do. If a surfer would like the pages being submitted, regardless of flow and structure, list them. I don't care if every other recip in the table reads "Porn". It means nothing to me. In fact, if it wasn't for the amazingly strong backlash that the other link lists who've done that have received, I would be demanding that style reciprocal link too. (It seems to have worked better for them than rejecting it has for everyone else.) I do, however, get really annoyed by being grouped with unknown/semi-dead link lists. (Look at Alexa, you lazy fucks!
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I don't care about site structure. Never even pay attention to it.
I don't know if someone is auto-submitting, so I don't lose sleep over it.
What I do like are attractive sites with good content that is hosted by the submitter. I don't care about private WHOIS anymore or anything like that. I simply want quality links that my surfers will enjoy.