ok Maro...
i'll start with your last question...a recip url is the page where they can find thier link back to them at(called a recip. link)...usually the same entrance page you are submitting
and you must use the full url...including the index page...
like the one i have been submitting today
http://www.local-strippers.com/april/index.htm
and keep that page open as well as your site while i go on with a quick review for you..
first, the entrance page needs to be quick loading, so no heavy graphics..it is the first and easiest place for the surfers to back out on...make it load quickly..
so get rid of that huge sponsor graphic and go with a banner and text..and make sure it's NOT hardcore...in short no dicks or pussies shown..tits are ok...it is your warning page...must be softcore only or link lists won't list you..
next, your recips...they are a mess arn't they...link lsits don't like that...and if you look at my page there again, you'll see how i tabled them...most will take that no problem..so create your own table of links and you can have 40 or so if you like and you keep them looking neat...
you have this text on the entrance page there: click for more pictures...
you don't tell them they are leaving the site, and as such many places will consider that a blind link...
nothing on the enter page can be even close to a blind link...so get more creative and make sure the surfer knows they are going somewhere off site..
your enter link doesn't have to be huge, just clear and easy to find...you want your sponsor linked text the be the star...its the reason for the site...selling the sponsor..
main page...
"over 1500 hot girls waiting for you"
gallery1
dude that is as blind as the day is long..
half the surfers will think that link right above the gallery link is connected to the gallery link...thus again you won't get listed with blind links!
it should be something more like:
"over 1500 hot girls waiting for you at (Sponsors name), click and check out each of these exotic beauties and for the first time, thier raw hillbilly cousins from the darkest ancient mountians of asian"
- - - -
enter my gallery1
something along those lines...
get creative, but not blind..
gallery pages...
thumbs were ok, but full sized pics were to small to get listed at the major link lists..they need to be at least 1200 pixels total...thats length + width
and get more creative on your ads on the site...use more text, descriptive and selling text...make that surfer want to go buy that membership..
and use some different ads...using the same one on each page of the site is jsut going to get it overlooked...
there you go man, you asked...now it's in your ball park

good luck!