New bdsm/fetish paysite owner/model with traffic Q seeks advice

[Tyranni]

Hi all, this is my first post. I created and run http://www.vilehabit.com, I do everything but the camera work ('designed' the site if you can call it that-thank you, dreamweaver- do all the modelling, promoting etc.) and am looking for new ways to promote. I've done some link/banner exchanges, submitted to pic posts & toplists in my niches (bdsm, latex fetish, female submissive, with hardcore). I was hoping for a little advice, as I'm getting exasperated. The site opened in December and my sales aren't too great, though I think the content is good, original & we have tons of video content. I haven't made any free sites yet to submit to TGPs, it seems so time consuming that I don't know how I can do it and still create content, do live shows (I do 20 hrs or so a week of live time on ifriends to bring in the cash, that is where it is at so far but I'm looking to phase that out and have something running that is more self-sustaining.) Am I wrong in trying to get traffic from places that only feature bdsm & fetish, rather than places that have everything but do have my categories within them? If I'm missing some big glaring point or if my site sucks and I'm just not aware of it please let me know, I can take it