Help would be soooooo appreciated

[Halfdeck]

If you're looking for people into fetishes to bookmark your site, you need to really build a site that targets those people.

If I were you, first thing I'd do is drop your banners to generic fetish sites (I wont name names) - replace them with links to real fetish sites.

Also, drop banners to other sites that are completely unrelated to fetish stuff.

Organize the site into different microniches....

Finally, from a quick glance I have no idea what the site offers. Does it have photos I can browse? Articles? ... although I read one post and that made me not want to read anything else.

"We started this website because we felt there just was not one place on the web where you could go to find out about all different sortZ of bitZ about fetish sex."

That might work for a hub page, free site, etc, but for a site with as much text as you have, you're going to attract people who read, and those types of people will be annoyed by lousy writing.