Good Monday Morning
 

Good Morning
Like I said before, I will be here when I can be. Tell me, when does it stop getting worse and start getting better? I know it's only been 3 weeks but damn, I have got to snap out of this soon.

Anyway, this is a good morning thread and I really hate to bring anyone down. Nobody around my home sees me without a smile on my face. :)

So, good morning and have a great day.

Hi Jim, nice to see you posting. :)

Wow what a surprise, looks like rain today.

Went to the Pride Festival up the street from us and got caught in a rainstorm from hell. Went back home and spent the rest of the day watching the first four episodes of Hex.

Getting my teeth cleaned today and then just another exciting day of errands and work.

Good Morning All :) Hello Jim, good to see you posting :)

Hi Jim, good to see you here again :D and good morning to everybody up bright and early for another day of porn mongering |thumb

Good Morning Jim and everyone else. :)

Rain here again today and I am suppose to go get fitted for new golf clubs at 10am. Likely that'll be canceled.

Good morning world |waves|

The usual heat and humidity here. Running a few errands early while it's a few degrees cooler before the sun gets all the way up, then back inside with the a/c on for the rest of the day.

Jim - I wish I could tell you when it gets better, but June 19th was one year for me and the loss is still as fresh and painful as it was last year. I do what you do, put a smile on my face (and in my words) for everyone else, but inside nothing has really gotten better. Maybe the second year gets easier, but so far no changes.

Wishing everyone a day full of reasons to go on.

:)

Jim, welcome back |waves|
Your loss and pain is so fresh, it takes more time, much more. Sorry for my honesty.

Cleo,
so we meet our dentists/oral surgeons today, cool.. not. |shocking|

My mini is melting... pretty hot here. It has gotten new fans twice last year but it is such a stupid construction, doh.

Have a great day everybody.

Good Monday Peoples |waves|

I worked a bit yesterday, all the while kicking one shin with the other leg's foot for deciding to make changes to every category page that can't be done with a simple search & replace |banghead|

I then watched The Skeleton Key & was totally surprised by the twist & then spent the next 15 minutes thinking back & realizing that it all made sense. (I know I'm 3 years behind everyone else)

Also, Netflix seems to return The Bucket List as one of the possible movies for every search I make |badidea|

It never gets better, just less worse. But I bet if she could, she'd tell you to "MAN UP!" :)

Jim, great to see you posting the morning thread. I dont think it gets better it just softens over time. The heartache of the loss, will one day without being announced, turn into joy for the experience and having known such happiness.


On the homefront, seems like there is to be T-storms for a couple days and then Wed/Thurs clear up..Trying to hit the ground running this week. Heres to it!

Porn Slingers Unite..Just say no to the summer slow down!!!

Mornin' y'all,

|coffee is on, help yourself...

Jim, you are much stronger than you imagine, and are stronger than I think I would be if I was in the same situation.

Got a cd stuck in my macbook yesterday and had to reboot to get it out. I think it was trembling in fear because I was installing two different versions of linux.

I read an article yesterday about Airlines increasing the minimum stay rule to save fuel. Lets see, I need a round trip ticket, by staying overnight the airline will save fuel because... ?

Shoveling some bits and bytes this afternoon in the never ending quest to finish up this other project so I can start doing some live testing. It is funny that wordpress has become the default test to find issues. Because of all that backend stuff they do, it does make for a good usability test.

Here's to the start of a great week.

Actually she would say WOMAN UP! She always thought that all men were weak. The thing is that I go 3 nights without being able to sleep with lots of ambien and vallium. And then I sleep 22 hours from exhaustion.

Every night I think I will be able to work the next day and I find myself just staring into space...all day. I go 3 or 4 days without eating a thing. God knows, I could lose some weight but 35 pounds in a month seems to be a bit much. And, I am on day 23 without sleeping in my bed. :( Today, Eva and one of her friends are going to change my room around to make it look more like my room than ours.

This just really sucks :(

Good morning everyone. Nice to see you post Jim :)

Good morning.

Good morning..

Jim the thought of it all will NEVER leave your mind, Time will heal some of the wounds... Its going to take some time and sometimes you really just have to push yourself... I know exactly what you are feeling you know if you need ANYTHING all you have to do is pick up the phone and i am here for you!! |thumb

Good Morning Jim and Everyone.

Its raining here again as well.. oh well.

Have a good one!

Good Morning,

Good to see you here Jim. Just give it time, there is no set time for healing.

I am finally home after an unexpected long weekend away. We had a good time, but now it is time to get back into the grind. :(

Good Morning :)
I may have screwed up my surgery a bit in a small slip over the weekend so I need to see the oral surgeon today and have him check it out, damn I do not want to do this again |banghead|

Jim,
A family member with a great loss a few years back told me that you cannot put a time limit on it. One day you will notice it does not hurt as much as it use to and will continue to lessen to a point, but will always be there. Until then, please eat a little even if you do not want to.

Good Morning , cloudy and cool here today so no sitting on the deck relaxing :(. So i guess i wil do a little work and just see what i can acomplish.

Jim as a few have said it never goes away it just gets a little easier with each day. You need to eat even if you dont want to.

Good morning all!
Hot and sticky as HELL here!

Jim – You are an important piece of her life’s legacy. Take care of that legacy by taking care of yourself.

Jim I never knew you or your wife and I never went trough what you're going now (I wish I never will nor do I wish it on anybody else but that just can't be) so I can't pretend I know what you're going to... The one thing I will say is that I think you're handling it way better then I would. I would probably hide in a dark corner and weep all day long and never want to see or speak to anybody again ever. Which would be a mistake, cuz the only thing that can help except time is the company of friends and family. It always helps to talk about it, even if it's just here on the board. So make sure to write whenever you feel like it, we're all here for you!

Good Morning Everyone |waves|

Nice to see you posting Jim! ;)

Morning!

Good to see you posting Jim! Wish I had magic words or pills for you for your pain. Lean on your friends we don't mind |thumb

Today it's not raining yet so I'm going for a quick swim then get to work.

Have a great day all |thumb

Good to see you posting Jim |waves| |thumb A therapist told me years ago that they don't believe in the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy except when it comes to depression. He told me to make myself go to a movie, make myself go out to dinner, force myself to do anything that was once pleasurable. Grief and depression are very similar. The pain doesn't go away, we find ways to deal with it so it doesn't hurt as much.

Is ya gonna b nekkid? :D

I call |bullshit|

Remember when we were talking on the phone about my sleep apnea & depression & whatnot? She heard you talking to me & then what did I hear her say in the background?

MAN UP!

I then asked you if it was to soon to tell her the same thing as she was almost over her latest kemo sickness :)

She was a great woman, Jim, and it'll never get better. But you know she does not want you sitting around doing nothing all day. So man up & let me know if your workload from the 20th is complete :D

...and on a side note, it looks like Yell is of from his real job.....again |couch|

Afternoon all :)

It's been nearly 8 years since my father died and the only thing i can say is, you never get over stuff like this, you just learn to live with it and as for reasons to carry on, we just do because that's what the people we lose want us to do and in some small way doing exactly that does help out.

As people have said, in time life does appear normal again.

Good Morning All.

Jim, my father has has been gone almost 8 years now, it still grabs me at times, but the times are much farther apart then they were. I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

Jim, you might want to see if your health plan offers grief counseling. I'ved used therapy a few tough times in my life, and it can really help. Sometimes just going to a group therapy session, where people are going through the same pain as you are, helps you all lean on each other to get through. And some one-on-one help with a therapist can also help.

There isn't any quick fix, but the symptoms you are talking about I'd say you should seek out some help. You know your wife wouldn't want you making yourself sick over her loss. Depression is somtimes really hard to fight on your own, and if you are drugging yourself the way you are, you could be taking too much and making it worse. Just my 2 cents.

Morning..
Payroll day so i'll be working all day. Sad to hear about George Carlin. We are watching Dogma as I type this.

My ex-bunkie wants to be a camhoe so we are in the process of helping build her a studio to cam from and hopefully her new webcam will be in the mail today. She takes awesome pictures so i'm pretty sure if she sticks with it, she'll be successful.

Have a good one.. and try to enjoy the dawg days of summer. |thumb


|Jim Posting is a step toward normalcy. As was stated, it never goes away, it only gets less painful but you are still in the 5 stages of grief. Work though them first.

Good morning all:) well 7:26 evening here and i am enjoying the facted that my hubby is working in the backyard getting the place ready for a new pool and i am only watching at that sweating body and laugh:D (he hates me for doing that:D)

Jim good to see you around and healing (from the pain you have/feel now) takes/needs time.

Now since gg manage to make me post on my day off i can post in the morning thread too! (this is just an excuse to get on the net:D)

Thats an issue which i have with stuveltjes porn since the day i started that linksite, thats also the reason why the damn site isnt finish yet, so many cats and all need to be done by hand...i will never do that again!!!!!

I am still tired of that party weekend, but tomorrow i have to go to the tattoo shop again, i know i mentioned last time on this board that i would go there and yep i was there but i couldnt deside what tattoo i wanted, so after checking for an hour i deside i give them "free hand" so i lett them make me a nice woman wrist tattoo with the initials of my hubby and kids.
But in the meantime i am getting scared as shit because the whole bunch of my fam and friends where talking to me how much pain i get and bla bla bla....i have sucha bunch of nice friends......i curse them all now|catfight|, on this moment i am checking for info in google how to take care of your tattoo after placing it, yes i know the shop will tell me also, but things have bin changed the last year about taking care of your tattoo and i am getting realy confused of what i can find on the net about it, so many different info.

Oke i have bin babling enough now and i am gonna watch some movies now , no soccer this eve on the telly!
I wish you all a great day and eve|waves|

Good afternoon everyone.

I was saddened to find out that my hero george carlin is dead at 71.

RIP - George

Good afternoon folks,

Pretty warm weather here today and it's supposed to get even better tomorrow.
I'm pretty tired after falling asleep at 9 last night and waking up at 1am and couldn't get back to sleep. Watched some National Geographic until I had to get up at 6am. Damn those American prisons really help youngsters get on the right track again... not :)

Good to see you back here Jim ;)

Afternoon everyone.

Glad to see you starting the day post off |Jim.

So been plugging away on stuff. Some times it just takes 5 times the amount of time when you are doing something that is just mind numbing boring. I just finally got through it. whew.

Now on to some other data entry things but at least that's a kinda of rhythm I can get into.

One more day and then going to take a couple days vacation with the lady. |thumb

Have a good day everyone.

Cheers,
B

New here, don't know the details here, but obviously you're in grief and that sucks. We've been going through the same thing in our family and it does get better, but it just takes time, sometimes a lot of time. People pretend that you're just supposed to bounce back, but it doesn't happen that fast. I like to tell people not to let themselves get hungry, lonely or tired, as that just makes a bad situation worse. Tired sounds like a problem right now, but lonely and hungry can be cured with a couple phone calls. Hang in there.