Naughtybabs is hurt
 

So, um the Naughtybabs has been dealt a gut ripping ordeal. I have just recently learned (wednesday) that my partner of 10 years has been cheating on me. The real "Babs" has torn my life out from under me. "Babs" is my wife, her real name is Jennie and she is the reason I get out of bed everyday. We have had our problems but have come through most of them smelling like a rose. I am completly blind at the moment and dont know what the fuck I should be doing. I made a commitment to her when I said I do and have stuck to it. I have pretty much been on a binge cycle for the last 5 days,. I know this will solve nothing but it dulls the pain. I dont know how to face reality with out her.

I miss my wife

-Binxgook

I'm sorry man, I know how it feels. Been there myself. I wish I had some sage advice to give that would make it easier. Hang in there, and don't do anything rash until you get your head sorted out.

:( Man I feel for you. That has got to be the next worse thing to someone dying.. in some ways worse. It's corny but I can't help thinking that it may help that she obviously isn't worth being that hurt over.
I broke up from a 9 year relationship about 10 years ago and it does take a lot of determination to start what is often a whole new life. Mine was, I moved a long way with two kids and then went back to school and university. Finding new direction helped me a lot.

man I feel for you, happened to me 20 years ago, but you gotta pick up the pieces and go on, its tough and there's other fish in the sea, it wont replace what you loved so much but may help you get over this...

Sorry to hear about that man. Major suckage. Keep your head up and give yourself time to clear your head and get it straight.

Sorry man.

It will get better with time. And who knows how it will work out.

sorry to hear that binxgook... if you'll be totally desperated let me know, it's hard to get up (argh, ok i'm young, ok she is pregnant, ok the baby isn't mine, but why the hell when the beautiful day came I needed to get her a taxi to another guy? argh again) and learn a new way on how to live, especially if you're not quite sure are there any reasons to. Going back to that desperation maybe I would be able to help you with some crazy psycho/hypno/mind tools, sirencly it was the only thing that helped me got up after crash and keeps me "up" each day.

Sorry to hear that... I really felt that too, its hard to dealt that after all, its been a lie... The first thing I did is, I runaway away and called the person that I am open with and thats my best girlfriend, its good that you have someone to share and tell, it reduces the pain and after that depression of all week, seeing a doctor to consult myself... Its been hard but we need to move and renew our life...

Oh man that really sucks. I wish you the best in starting over new OR mending things it is up to you and what you feel you can do. Every situation is different. Whether it is worth to save the marriage, or move along.

Personally, I would move along. But I do not know you, so it's not my place to judge.

Oh damn...that so sucks Binxgook :(

Everything that comes to mind sounds like a cheap cliche'...

So, I'll just say...be strong buddy...and don't let your pain overwhelm you to the point of doing something you'll regret.

I spent over 25 years with the same woman...got divorced 7 years ago...at my own instigation. Even though I was the one that wanted out, still a very painful process to see a relationship of that many years die :(

Okay, perhaps one cliche' after all...

As old doors close....new doors open...but you do have to open them. Hang in there Binx.

Sorry to hear that binxgook. I have no advice for you but do hope you get threw it soon. I know everyone says this and you may not want to hear it but time heal all wounds. Good luck to ya |thumb

So sorry to hear about the betrayal...

It *is* like a death b/c it's the death of what you felt was real...

I don't personally know you but I've been in that same place ... and compassion is not in short supply here...

You may not feel well for a while, but give it time... I know that sounds too simple and too cliche' .. time really is the key... with each day you'll have more strength... with strength comes more ability to cope.....

Keep us posted...

Damn it's bad news.. keep your chin up man!

Sorry to hear that, binxy. What got/gets me though is that thought process of "if it is meant to be, it will be." Might not work for everyone.. but my 'other' one is "living well is the best revenge"

Let us know how you are doing..

Ouch! that's a bitch Binx it happened to me with my first wife I know it hurts like a mother fucker, don't do like I did and get obsessed by it, you have to move on. The stupidest and most costly six months of my life was after we split up, I went to jail twice once for beating the crap out of a bartender and once for destruction of property (I destroyed her boyfriends car with my truck). I used to keep a pocket full of quarters so I could call her a couple times an hour ( either to tell her what a whore she was or to beg her to come back). The insanity finale ended in a fist fight with her boyfriend we went through a porch railing and I thought I was Bruce Fucking Lee and tried to turn the fall into a back flip, I landed on my forehead (body arched backwards) and he landed on me. I learned a valuable lesson that day, my advice suck it up and move on

Thanks to all of you. I appreciate the kindness you have shown me.