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I shouldn't add anything more to this thread but I just feel the need to say a couple of things.
I'm sure we all subscribe to the "if it's consensual and legal, it's fine" idea. And yes, there are plenty of very strange people out there.
That aside, what I do find disturbing about things like the donkey punch and the other so-called sex acts that I found on that list is that mostly they seem to have been made up.
Someone has sat down and thought "what's the most disgusting degrading thing I could do during sex?" and then other people have repeated it as fact - including the writers at CSI. And even if someone, somewhere has done it, I don't think it's common enough to deserve a name. But now, lots of people suddenly know about it, people think it happens all the time... what's the net result of that? Do we start to think we're the only "normal" ones out there?
Add to that the fact that the description of these sorts of things are primarily about being cruel to, or hurting, the female sex partner *without her consent* and I get uncomfortable when people say "oh well, to each their own".
Would any woman in her right mind actually want to be punched in the back of the head so hard that it knocks her out during sex? I mean, having talked to a chick who was into rough sex, I don't think even she would want to go that far. And if she did... well, as liberal and accepting as I am, I would have to say that she's got some kind of problem if that kind of extremity is necessary for her to enjoy sex. And yes, this statement is very judgemental of me. (Although I should also point out that, according to the definition, punching the woman is designed purely for the man's pleasure, not the woman's)
Maybe I am being a Dworkin about this, but it just seems awful there's meant to be an undertone of humor about it too - that the ideas behind it are designed to make everyday people feel sick, but they're supposed to laugh at it too. My previous post about "balancing the thread" was along those lines, but now I've given it more thought, I shouldn't have posted what I did.
This is just my own moral stance, but I've never wanted to promote anything that sought to humiliate women or demean sex because I dislike the idea that something as beautiful as sex would be "besmirched" by violence or hatred. That's the underlying ehtics of how I operate my business.
Something else that made me concerned. I know people who let their kids watch CSI. I was wondering how they got by explaining the "semen sample" part of it. Now they've got fetishes and donkey punches on the list as well.
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