Smutferret...I enjoyed reading your post very much.
Wicca has few rules. The most famous part of the Wiccan Rede is "an it harm none, do what ye will." Far from being a license to do whatever one pleases, that one short phrase puts severe restrictions on a Wiccan's behavior. (Christians may recognize the similiar "do unto others...")
Wiccans basically agree to assist and answer serious questions from those interested in Wicca. That's about it. Wiccans will assist those either already converted or considering converting...but never go door to door with pamphlets.
It's interesting that part of Wicca is respecting all Paths. Part of Wicca is also the first advice given "we advise against telling anyone you're Wiccan." Wiccans are to respect all Paths but not be stupid enough to expect that respect to be returned.