I think this was kinda left hanging a bit.
A LOT of link list owners don't like more than 2 outbound links per recip...myself included. Frankly, anything more than 2 is being greedy. I've been known to let 3 slide though...if the rest of the site is good.
There's one list in particular that has 9 if I remember correctly...and yes, I do decline sites with his recip.
As to how to deal with the issue. I'd suggest you contact the owner of the list with excessive outbound links and ask them if you can alter their recip. Or, simply do it...link back to the category and the root...and see if he/she still accepts your sites. If they have a comments field, you might even want to mention the issue there. Just some thoughts
