Thanks for helping out both of you!
About blind links: ok I see what you mean, so if I understand it correctly pretty much every link going to the paysite should spell out "this link goes here". I actually thought when I built the sites: "I've repeated 'See it at Bubble Butts Galore' a million times now, the surfer's going to be like: "Yes I *know* you're trying to promote that site now, thankyouverymuch"
But then again the surfer may not read all texts so thinking of that I see why all links should mention where they go.
I'll read that thread more carefully, thanks!