It's not that you need to say PRECISELY where it goes. The thing is you have to let the surfer know he's going to a pay site. Banners for instance, are not considered blind links because the surfer knows if he clicks it he will get to a paysite. That's why if you add a bunch of text like "high quality downloadable hardcore movies" right above or bellow the banner, glued to it if you want, it's not considered a blind link at most places (while it would be considered if it weren't linked together with the banner). The catch is in case they are linked to the sponsor, they need to be linked TOGETHER - same a href - with the banner so they are considered 1 outgoing link instead of two.
In what textlink are concerned there are other ways of telling the surfer they are going for a paysite w/o spelling it for them. Expressions like "get instant access", "inside our member's area", "on our membership site", "join now", "only $xx", stuff like that. Read the thread MrYum mentioned, it's a really good one. And browse tru some of the sites listed at link-o-rama for instance. That will give you an ideea of what flies.
BTW, I didn't look too close, but isn't the site you're promoting about anal sex? If it is, pretty much all linklists have that category, and the traffic should do you much better then the hardcore one.
Hope this helps. Good luck to you
