Thanks Ramster... that's kind of what I was thinking.  It's not like when we used to work the booths with CE/ANS and could chat with all the newbies, meet all the traffic gurus and get something out of the seminars.  I really miss those days - but things change.  
I really appreciate the input - I might just drive out for a 1-day deal and hang out @ the bars to see who I see and what I can do.  Had a foot in adult still, but 90% of my dealings in the last couple of years have been mainstream - just wondering who's still out there and what's up.  
Thanks again 
