My suggestion is to forget about using redirects and iframes. The better solution is to create your own white label sites. By doing so, you build your own brand with your own sites (provided you have good quality domain names), give surfers the impression that they are doing business directly with you and eliminate traffic bleed.
For webcam white label sites, you can use
Video Secrets.
For webcam and dating white label sites, you can use
Dating Gold.
Let me know if you need contact info for their affiliate managers.