Well ain't you da man!!
It was the htaccess..
I had an addition accept,alloe,deny on the bottom with a bazillion ip's and domain names I wanted to not even have access..
took it off and bingo!! site is like lightening..
but..that leaves me with another problem..
I guess I will have to ask about a server accept or deny (not too familiar with apache..) because all those ip's and domains are up to no good and I need to make sure they can't have any access to my domains..
thank you!!
