New and Not New

[cellinis]

This is my first post and so I guess the first thing to do is introduce myself. I run a feldging porn business with my flagship site: http://www.pornographytimes.com/ which gets good Search Engine Traffic.
Though I have been marketing adult websites for over 5 months now, I am still new to loads of things.
For instance, I just started posting to Link Lists. My first site: http://www.loa-freeporn.com/throatjo...allthewaydown/
got accepted in some of the link lists and not in the others (which is fair enough since I was using sponsor content for the movies). However, I would like to ask some questions to the old timers:
1. Is it okay to changed the reciprocal table of the link list to match the site design?
2. How many reciprocals should I put? I put 16 on this one but since everyone wants the main page, I really am limited to the number of reciprocals I can put on a single page.
3. I use manual submissions, but is there a script that can help with that? I end up using a good hour just typing my descriptions over and over again!
4. Any criticism (and I am sure there would be a lot of it, considering it was my first attempt!) would be welcome.
5. Which sites have good erotica traffic, since I am looking to promote my own erotica site but I have no idea where to begin!