Why does this give me a bad feeling?

stuveltje · 2008-07-30, 05:05 PM

I just need some opinions or advice here.
Yes some years ago i was 24 hours online , the net was all, i made alot of friends and talked for hours with them, now the last 2 years i made my choise, yes bizz will always important for me, but my hubby and kids are more important for me, i told that most of my friends, for real my bizz went first place and my hubby lett me, i did my kids things, and wife things, and house things, but i am getting older and had a realy bad year which got me think alot about things, life is short and i want to do alot of other things too, so hell yeah i gave even an explantion to most of my friends why i am not online much and if i am online i dont have many time to chat, and when i have time to chat i dont wanna chat about bizz....still some friends gave me a a bad feeling, saying i didnt message them for some time, hell i am still around, but i made a choise, i have 2 beautifull(big pain in the ass) but i love them so much kids, my hubby..what can i say about him, he alowed his wife not sleeping in his bed for months, because she found the bizz more important, he said, you love that biss go for it, now i changed my mind....why the fuck i feel guilty now even i have explained my friends in this bizz that i choose for my fam, that i am not much around...maybe i should say it this way, why the hell alot of my friends in this bizz, dont understand that my fam is very important to me and i made my choise...................
and still i feel so fucking guilty for not being around.
I just need some advice to deal with this

Bill · 2008-07-30, 05:09 PM

My advice is - don't feel guilty.

If the money was still coming in buckets, you'd probably still be working hard in the biz.

Or maybe not - if you don't really HAVE to bring in extra money, why not focus on family?

anyway - don't feel guilty.

stuveltje · 2008-07-30, 05:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bill

My advice is - don't feel guilty.

If the money was still coming in buckets, you'd probably still be working hard in the biz.

Or maybe not - if you don't really HAVE to bring in extra money, why not focus on family?

anyway - don't feel guilty.

i dont have to bring in the money, but i like to work and i am nosey, i like to learn things, i made alot of friends, but my mistake was getting bizz in first place, my hubby lett me, like i said i had a bad year and i am not hiding it, i explained to my friends the why...............but most i know dont have any spouses or kids ...i think there is the difference....still i hate they nag i dont message them , hell i am still around, and i will only message when needed....i dont wanna chit chat...dont have time for that, well i do have time for that, but that time i like to use for my hubby and kids....

Twiceshy · 2008-07-30, 05:34 PM

Stu Never feel guilty for choosing family . For those you call friends that dont understand to bad for them . Were they really Friends in the first place ? A true Friend would understand that your Family comes first. be True to yourself do what you know in your heart is the best for you and if no one understands Fuckem . Those that know you and are true friends will Always Understand that Family is the most inportant.

JustRobert · 2008-07-30, 05:41 PM

Do Not Feel Guilty! Family First

Since you do not need to bring in money, do not worry. When you have time for biz, do it. When you have time to chat, do it. True friends will understand.

I talked to my best friend of 35 years Monday night. I had not talked to him in 3 months (lives in another state) and there is no hard feelings between us. He is busy with 4 kids plus his biz and I am busy trying to grow my biz.

Now go spend time with your family and enjoy it! The kids will be gone sooner than you think, sometimes not soon enough

stuveltje · 2008-07-30, 05:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Twiceshy

Stu Never feel guilty for choosing family . For those you call friends that dont understand to bad for them . Were they really Friends in the first place ? A true Friend would understand that your Family comes first. be True to yourself do what you know in your heart is the best for you and if no one understands Fuckem . Those that know you and are true friends will Always Understand that Family is the most inportant.

i know, and i realy have some good friends on the net who always will back me up and understand my thinking...stillll, hell you know what i mean, but i think bill and you are right, i have to think of myself and my fam....so fuck you all who dont understand

(stu's hubby is laughing now............the big blonde, bleu eyes, i love him so much, for 23 years stud

)....i am not feeling guitly anymore

stuveltje · 2008-07-30, 05:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustRobert

Do Not Feel Guilty! Family First

Since you do not need to bring in money, do not worry. When you have time for biz, do it. When you have time to chat, do it. True friends will understand.

I talked to my best friend of 35 years Monday night. I had not talked to him in 3 months (lives in another state) and there is no hard feelings between us. He is busy with 4 kids plus his biz and I am busy trying to grow my biz.

Now go spend time with your family and enjoy it! The kids will be gone sooner than you think, sometimes not soon enough

yes the kids they grow up so fast and they are already saying i am old

btw i made my 11 year old son sign a paper he will leave the house with age 18, he is still searching for the paper because he changed his mind.....oke i am a evil mom

dunc · 2008-07-30, 07:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stuveltje

i made my 11 year old son sign a paper he will leave the house with age 18

What a superb idea - I'm onto it

People and situations change - just stay true to yourself an all will be well

JustRobert · 2008-07-30, 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stuveltje

i made my 11 year old son sign a paper he will leave the house with age 18

LOL, we told ours if they go to college, full time, they can live at home. If not then they had 3 months to find a job and move out into the real world or join the military.

2008-07-30, 05:05 PM	#1
stuveltje Live and learn. And take very careful notes! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Sunny Holland Posts: 6,157	Why does this give me a bad feeling? I just need some opinions or advice here. Yes some years ago i was 24 hours online , the net was all, i made alot of friends and talked for hours with them, now the last 2 years i made my choise, yes bizz will always important for me, but my hubby and kids are more important for me, i told that most of my friends, for real my bizz went first place and my hubby lett me, i did my kids things, and wife things, and house things, but i am getting older and had a realy bad year which got me think alot about things, life is short and i want to do alot of other things too, so hell yeah i gave even an explantion to most of my friends why i am not online much and if i am online i dont have many time to chat, and when i have time to chat i dont wanna chat about bizz....still some friends gave me a a bad feeling, saying i didnt message them for some time, hell i am still around, but i made a choise, i have 2 beautifull(big pain in the ass) but i love them so much kids, my hubby..what can i say about him, he alowed his wife not sleeping in his bed for months, because she found the bizz more important, he said, you love that biss go for it, now i changed my mind....why the fuck i feel guilty now even i have explained my friends in this bizz that i choose for my fam, that i am not much around...maybe i should say it this way, why the hell alot of my friends in this bizz, dont understand that my fam is very important to me and i made my choise................... and still i feel so fucking guilty for not being around. I just need some advice to deal with this __________________ Canadian Sexlinks - submit Erotica search -submit Last edited by stuveltje; 2008-07-30 at 05:07 PM..

2008-07-30, 05:41 PM	#5
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2008-07-30, 05:09 PM	#2
Bill Selling porn allows me to stay in a constant state of Bliss - ain't that a trip! Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 3,914	My advice is - don't feel guilty. If the money was still coming in buckets, you'd probably still be working hard in the biz. Or maybe not - if you don't really HAVE to bring in extra money, why not focus on family? anyway - don't feel guilty.

2008-07-30, 05:34 PM	#4
Twiceshy You can now put whatever you want in this space :) Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Canada Posts: 958	Stu Never feel guilty for choosing family . For those you call friends that dont understand to bad for them . Were they really Friends in the first place ? A true Friend would understand that your Family comes first. be True to yourself do what you know in your heart is the best for you and if no one understands Fuckem . Those that know you and are true friends will Always Understand that Family is the most inportant.