Just need to clear something up that is really bothering me

[Jim]

On this last 4th of July I posted the following...

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"Really no big plans today. I do plan on going for a ride on my bike for only the 2nd time this season. And, believe it or not...I will be taking a lady friend for a ride with me. Nothing but a ride and maybe a chicken barbecue but it really is too soon for anything else.

So, enjoy the holiday weekend. Tomorrow I have some friends coming over for a friendly poker game."
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I have been told by a "Little Green Birdy" that at the Xbiz show, a few people took exception to my post. The few thought it showed disrespect towards the love of my life that had died just over a month before.

Here is the truth about that post...I lied. The last thing I want people to do is to feel sorry for me. I made that post after talking to my children letting them know that I did not want the people I work with think the truth about how I was handling things. During the 4th of July, my bike sat in it's garage with a solo seat still on and I sad in my office mostly crying all day like I have up until a couple of weeks ago. I have ridden my bike once this year. And that was with my son to visit my lovely wife while she was in the hospital. The only reason I am posting this is after thinking about it for almost a week, it pissed me off for anyone to think I would ever show the love of my life any disrespect.

As many of you may remember, I had her name tattooed on my arm. I am getting tears placed below it sometime soon. I took a room in my house, mounted her Motorcycle on the wall and turned it into a shrine/bar/poker room for her. It has all of her motorcycle gear including leathers, helmet, boots, original license plate and her license. My bike will be painted the same pink color as her bike this winter. Never, ever, would I show her any disrespect. Please, don't ever think I would.

[digifan]

You are a great guy...

Pity just makes everything worse, so true.

I am proud of sortof knowing you, mostly through the board but quite for a while.

[Torn Rose]

I'm stunned over this Jim, you do not need to justify the way you are dealing with this to anyone but yourself, and if that offends people FUCK THEM, it is none of their fucking business.

[Bill]

Some people should get a life.

Buncha gossipy dried-up moralists.

[lorsha]

I remember reading that post Jim; and saying to myself "good for him!"

Now after reading this; my response is "good for you!"

Either way it is your choice and only your choice, how you choose to deal with things. There is most certainly no right or wrong. Only what feels right to you.

God bless Jim.

[Jim]

Thank you guys...
But there was one person that I love and value her opinion too much to just let it go by.

[Cleo]

You aren't showing and disrespect by trying to move on. If something happened to me I would want my partner to move on and hopefully find someone that fulfilled them and made them happy.

I so do understand you not wanting people to feel sorry for you.

These gossipers need to get a fucking life.

[bluemoney]

Hey Folks!

Jim's wife passed away, he had a former friend turn on him and his Sister-In-Law was stealing from him during his darkest hours.

I think a kind word and an apology would go a long way

Lite'n Up

[sue-fl]

I never thought for a minute you were disrespecting your wife with that post.

I agree with Torn fuck them

[Ms Naughty]

What Torn said. To hell with everybody else.

[papagmp]

My wife once asked me if I would date again after she passed.

I answered "Of course not darling, you're the only woman for me".

A few weeks later she asked "But seriously, would you remarry and let another woman in my house after I pass?"

Again I answered "Of course not darling, you're the only woman for me".

A week later she asked again "Come on Richard, tell me the truth, would you fuck another woman in my bed after I'm gone?"

Again I answered "Of course not darling, you're the only woman for me".

The next day she asked "Now tell the truth - would you let another woman use my golf clubs if I were no longer here?"

I answered, "Hell no, she's left handed".


But seriously Jim - we love you and wish you only the best - so do what's best for you and ignore all of us.

[SirMoby]

Only Fox News, Glenn Beck and Rush Limbaugh have the right to tell people how they should feel and judge people based on how they handle things.

Everyone else should get a life of their own and until they do should fuck themselves.

You're a good man and it's your life. Anyone that says differently is not a good person and in need of a life.

[NY Jester]

Im in consensus with the rest. You have no need to justify anything you do Jim. What you do, how you handle it, is your business. All the best.