Explain this to me like I am a 2 year old

[hhudsonn]

I own www.gorgeousboys.com , It is a paysite. I have an affiliate program. I NEED TRAFFIC. I hear the best way to get traffic is to trade. Ok, who do I trade with? What are hardlinks? do i get into LL's, TGPS? Alot of what I read ont his board seems to be LL's & TGPS. Do alot of webamsters on here have paysites? or do you all just promote paysites? so many questions in my head. Most of the time if I get a response to my questions, they are very vague answers, that lead me to more questions. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Explain it to me like I am a 2 year old.