Wow what a healthy response from you folks. I really enjoy the advice. I have a large site with many sections. I keep my advertising minimal I think, very clean. No heavy banners and such.
I plan on asking for recips in the future to help build inbound links, not for building traffic. I hope that the incoming links will help me in the SERPs. Less traffic, but better quality.
I guess I am mainly asking if it is ok to just add sites to the list as I see fit. If I like a site or feel it will help my surfers should I list it on my own or wait for someone to submit it.
BTW... the site is at
http://stinkypinkpimpin.com/ and the links section is here
http://stinkypinkpimpin.com/links/ I think that you will find my advertising minimal. No banner farms. The TGP section is simple as it gets, some thumbs and a few ads. I don't even use traffic scripts or skim any of my hits. I keep it clean and surfer friendly.