Google Sitemap probs

[Fonz]

Lately I've been experimenting with google sitemaps and have a few things I can't find anything about on their help pages so maybe I can get some answers here.

1. So I created one of those fancy xml sitemaps and put it in my google sitemap account. A few days later I'm checking google to see if the pages I put on there are indexed already...

site:teenspanker.com

I get 21 results (of 23 urls added to the sitemap)... So far so good, half a day later I do the check again... only 2 results are showing (the same 2 that were already indexed before I uploaded the sitemap) after refreshing about 5 times I get the 21 results again. But every time I go back to the google homepage and search for my indexed pages it shows me only 2 results with the 1st search... This has been happening for almost a week now.
Anyone got an explanation for this?

2. For some reason I can't get my site verified, I created an html file, named it like google told me to name it, uploaded it, and tried to verify it already 4 times now. The result is always the same after google tried to verify the site: "SITE NOT VERIFIED". I'd like to see some of those nice stats so feel free to help me out here

Thanx.