Jim, all I can say is I hope that at the end of all of this, when you are free and clear and no longer have your business dangling in the breeze, that you will let us in on what has happened.
Things are getting tougher in the adult business, from content to hosting and right through to click counts and processing. Any information that can help people from getting trapped would be a benefit.
I know a few people still smarting from the whole LikeStopped thing, and I wouldn't want to see anyone get caught out on that one again.
Good luck... hopefully it all works out for the best :-)
Alex