I Need some help with this mess

[dexcool]

CSS is the way to go for making webpages, it gives you much better control and is makes nicer pages, I do however use tables for my sites also.
Go to A List Apart for some great tips and tutorials on CSS.

Hashbury as for your site being slow I think it is because you have a lot of hotlinked graphics, also it needs to have a bit more organization I think. maybe some different fonts might help too.