I'm in the middle of a Mexican standoff and it SUCKS!

T Pat · 2006-02-14, 05:21 PM

My dream that has gotten me out of bed and through everyday without painpills no matter how bad this arthritis has gotten, was to get a little house in Mexico with an unobstructed view of the Pacific Ocean, so I could spend the rest of my days photographing Sunsets and the Greenflash.
My wife's kids all moved to Northern California to a town with no personality Foggy in the winter and hot as hell in the summer. I was thrilled, in the last 11 years we've gone through the drama of ten pregnancies and countless phone calls in the middle of the night (Mom I got popped at the boarder with 3 Mexicans in my trunk, Mom Misty got popped at the boarder with 86 pounds of pot in her trunk, Mom I got popped for stealing a car, Mom I know it's Christmas Eve but the cops were picking on me and my home boys and threw us all in jail, I didn't know there were guns in the car). Her kids moving turned Momma into a total nutcase. She left Saturday to go live close to her children
at one point I caved in and agreed to give up my Mexican dream with the condition that we live in the Yosemite area (45 minutes away from her kids) that's not good enough for her kids they want their maid, nanny, chauffeur closer.
The last month has been nothing but fighting and her and her kids scheming to get me to move to this no personality town. Last week I had made my mind up to let her go and then get my ass to Mexico and start shooting content like there's no tomorrow and to show her I figured I' ld end every photo set with my stiff dick firmly planted in the girl.
That doesn't seem like a good idea now, it would hurt her and I really don't want to cause her any pain.
What am I going to do, I realy don't know, I'm definately leaning towards a beach or hillside in Mexico and a once a day attempt of capturing the Greenflash.
I guess Mariposa will be my new theme song, a ruff translation is "I love you my little butterfly and have no regrets for the time we were together, but I'm not going to let you hurt me anymore, so just flutter away butterfly"
http://www.tijuana-news.com/Mariposa.swf

cd34 · 2006-02-14, 05:32 PM

I hope you get things worked out. Sucks to be in that situation, but, sometimes things have a funny way of working out.

juggernaut · 2006-02-14, 06:14 PM

Man Pat I feel for you. I kind of understand where you are comming from. My wife constantly wants to move to Romania to be with her family. Me, well I know if I go there then life is going to get tough. Even tho the cost of living there is cheap, I know in the back of my mind if I don't have a job and money coming in then I will go crazy. But we are looking at this to be 10 years from now so I have time to change her mind.
For you, well you know what you are going to do. You are going to pack up and move with your wife. That's what all good people end up doing. Giving up their dreams for someone they love. But the bad part is will that person understand the dream was given up for them. I think if you go to Mexico you are going to be just as sad then if you went up north. Mexico means you will be alone every morning, or at best wake up with someone who you really don't know. Up north means you have someone you love and trust but you are just going to be cold and hot. This is a tough one man and I feel for you, but you will never seperate a mom from her kids, you know this already. Maybe an agreement where she goes to see the kids 1 month and they come to mexico the next month then you can plant some weed and mexicans and guns in the kids cars when they leave and they won't be able to come to the house anymore.

spookyx · 2006-02-14, 07:20 PM

spookys advice.. (prolly bad)

stay in mexico..... meet someone new. start over.

Ramster · 2006-02-14, 08:56 PM

That is too bad. Sounds like her family is bad news. I hope it works out but if it does not then there is nothing more you can do but move on. If you move there and don't want to chances are high that it will not last anyway and end real bad.

Stay strong.

MrYum · 2006-02-14, 09:33 PM

Damn Pat...that sucks

Does sound like those kids are one helluva drain...and should be old enough now to take care of themselves. If I were in your boots, I'd probably try to find some compromise. If finances allow...do both...get your place in Mexico...and a place near the kids. When the time feels right...head off to Mexico...come back when you're rejuvenated.

If finances don't allow both...well I'm probably selfish. But I've reached a point in life where I'd have to look out for my own dreams. In a REAL emergency, there are airports and flights to anywhere. In a "I fucked up again" situation...sorry kid, grow up and be an adult.

Believe me, my mother wasn't crazy about me moving 3k miles away from her...but she understood and respected the decision. I fly back to see her every year for her birthday and talk to her on the phone a couple times a month.

Try to get her to follow your dreams with you Pat...but follow your dreams

SirMoby · 2006-02-14, 10:34 PM

It's a tough situation.

If you give up your dreams for someone and they don't appreciate what you did it will never work.

If you stay and do things just to hurt someone else then you'll never be happy.

Think about what you really want and need in life. I get the feeling that you want to stay in Mexico and even though you say you want to stick your dick in everything that's not really your goal. You can stay in Mexico, enjoy the sunsets, shoot content, earn a good living and still be happy.

Maybe she'll decide to be with you, maybe she'll decide she doesn't.

Decide what makes you happy and do it.

bluemoney · 2006-02-14, 11:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spookyx

stay in mexico..... meet someone new. start over.

I tend to agree with spookyx on this one. Sounds like too much daily drama in Northern California.

Bill · 2006-02-15, 12:38 AM

Dude, that blows.

Well, ya pretty much gotta get her moved, anyway, right?

I don't know what I'd do in that situation. Probably try a seperated marriage for a while. Live part of the time down south, part up north.

Who knows, maybe it won't totally suck up north.

T Pat · 2006-02-17, 12:55 AM

Holy Fuck there's alot of paperwork involved with moving me and my boat South of the Border.
I need to find a can do guy, I don't have the patience it will take to push this all through

2006-02-14, 05:21 PM	#1
T Pat You can now put whatever you want in this space :) Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Paridise Posts: 3,244	I'm in the middle of a Mexican standoff and it SUCKS! My dream that has gotten me out of bed and through everyday without painpills no matter how bad this arthritis has gotten, was to get a little house in Mexico with an unobstructed view of the Pacific Ocean, so I could spend the rest of my days photographing Sunsets and the Greenflash. My wife's kids all moved to Northern California to a town with no personality Foggy in the winter and hot as hell in the summer. I was thrilled, in the last 11 years we've gone through the drama of ten pregnancies and countless phone calls in the middle of the night (Mom I got popped at the boarder with 3 Mexicans in my trunk, Mom Misty got popped at the boarder with 86 pounds of pot in her trunk, Mom I got popped for stealing a car, Mom I know it's Christmas Eve but the cops were picking on me and my home boys and threw us all in jail, I didn't know there were guns in the car). Her kids moving turned Momma into a total nutcase. She left Saturday to go live close to her children at one point I caved in and agreed to give up my Mexican dream with the condition that we live in the Yosemite area (45 minutes away from her kids) that's not good enough for her kids they want their maid, nanny, chauffeur closer. The last month has been nothing but fighting and her and her kids scheming to get me to move to this no personality town. Last week I had made my mind up to let her go and then get my ass to Mexico and start shooting content like there's no tomorrow and to show her I figured I' ld end every photo set with my stiff dick firmly planted in the girl. That doesn't seem like a good idea now, it would hurt her and I really don't want to cause her any pain. What am I going to do, I realy don't know, I'm definately leaning towards a beach or hillside in Mexico and a once a day attempt of capturing the Greenflash. I guess Mariposa will be my new theme song, a ruff translation is "I love you my little butterfly and have no regrets for the time we were together, but I'm not going to let you hurt me anymore, so just flutter away butterfly" http://www.tijuana-news.com/Mariposa.swf __________________ How To Keep An Asshole In Suspense I'll Tell You Later Last edited by T Pat; 2006-02-14 at 05:25 PM..

2006-02-14, 05:32 PM	#2
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2006-02-14, 08:56 PM	#5
Ramster Life is good Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ottawa, Canada Posts: 11,868	That is too bad. Sounds like her family is bad news. I hope it works out but if it does not then there is nothing more you can do but move on. If you move there and don't want to chances are high that it will not last anyway and end real bad. Stay strong. __________________ Pornstar Legends \| Live Cam Model Shows \| Hungarian Girls Skype: robmurray999

2006-02-14, 09:33 PM	#6
MrYum Arghhhh...submit yer sites ya ruddy swabs! Join Date: May 2004 Location: Sunny Florida! Posts: 5,108	Damn Pat...that sucks Does sound like those kids are one helluva drain...and should be old enough now to take care of themselves. If I were in your boots, I'd probably try to find some compromise. If finances allow...do both...get your place in Mexico...and a place near the kids. When the time feels right...head off to Mexico...come back when you're rejuvenated. If finances don't allow both...well I'm probably selfish. But I've reached a point in life where I'd have to look out for my own dreams. In a REAL emergency, there are airports and flights to anywhere. In a "I fucked up again" situation...sorry kid, grow up and be an adult. Believe me, my mother wasn't crazy about me moving 3k miles away from her...but she understood and respected the decision. I fly back to see her every year for her birthday and talk to her on the phone a couple times a month. Try to get her to follow your dreams with you Pat...but follow your dreams __________________ Porno Flixxx Submissions SOTI Site Submissions Free Porn Resource Submissions

2006-02-17, 12:55 AM	#10
T Pat You can now put whatever you want in this space :) Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Paridise Posts: 3,244	Holy Fuck there's alot of paperwork involved with moving me and my boat South of the Border. I need to find a can do guy, I don't have the patience it will take to push this all through __________________ How To Keep An Asshole In Suspense I'll Tell You Later

2006-02-14, 06:14 PM	#3
juggernaut Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Central Jersey! If I was rich and powerful I would dress as my avatar does. Posts: 1,448	Man Pat I feel for you. I kind of understand where you are comming from. My wife constantly wants to move to Romania to be with her family. Me, well I know if I go there then life is going to get tough. Even tho the cost of living there is cheap, I know in the back of my mind if I don't have a job and money coming in then I will go crazy. But we are looking at this to be 10 years from now so I have time to change her mind. For you, well you know what you are going to do. You are going to pack up and move with your wife. That's what all good people end up doing. Giving up their dreams for someone they love. But the bad part is will that person understand the dream was given up for them. I think if you go to Mexico you are going to be just as sad then if you went up north. Mexico means you will be alone every morning, or at best wake up with someone who you really don't know. Up north means you have someone you love and trust but you are just going to be cold and hot. This is a tough one man and I feel for you, but you will never seperate a mom from her kids, you know this already. Maybe an agreement where she goes to see the kids 1 month and they come to mexico the next month then you can plant some weed and mexicans and guns in the kids cars when they leave and they won't be able to come to the house anymore.

2006-02-14, 07:20 PM	#4
spookyx Kodak Ghosts Run Amok Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Hobbs End Posts: 1,718	spookys advice.. (prolly bad) stay in mexico..... meet someone new. start over.

2006-02-14, 10:34 PM	#7
SirMoby Jim? I heard he's a dirty pornographer. Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 2,706	It's a tough situation. If you give up your dreams for someone and they don't appreciate what you did it will never work. If you stay and do things just to hurt someone else then you'll never be happy. Think about what you really want and need in life. I get the feeling that you want to stay in Mexico and even though you say you want to stick your dick in everything that's not really your goal. You can stay in Mexico, enjoy the sunsets, shoot content, earn a good living and still be happy. Maybe she'll decide to be with you, maybe she'll decide she doesn't. Decide what makes you happy and do it.

2006-02-15, 12:38 AM	#9
Bill Selling porn allows me to stay in a constant state of Bliss - ain't that a trip! Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 3,914	Dude, that blows. Well, ya pretty much gotta get her moved, anyway, right? I don't know what I'd do in that situation. Probably try a seperated marriage for a while. Live part of the time down south, part up north. Who knows, maybe it won't totally suck up north.