How to deal with this?

[SirMoby]

I took the liberty of chatting with a school psychologist (Susan a few houses down) and someone studying to be a school psychologist (my lovely wife) and they both had the same advice.

1. This is very traumatic. It's not like falling off a horse and bruising your butt. It's a gruesome death or near death. Be patient.

2. Drive her to school for a few days and see how she reacts going past that spot.

3. Try to get her into happy situations involving bikes (some people recommended taking her on a bike ride yourself) but don't push it.

Personally I would have started pushing the issue after a few days but these two recommended to not push it.

[stuveltje]

Originally Posted by SirMoby

I took the liberty of chatting with a school psychologist (Susan a few houses down) and someone studying to be a school psychologist (my lovely wife) and they both had the same advice.

1. This is very traumatic. It's not like falling off a horse and bruising your butt. It's a gruesome death or near death. Be patient.

2. Drive her to school for a few days and see how she reacts going past that spot.

3. Try to get her into happy situations involving bikes (some people recommended taking her on a bike ride yourself) but don't push it.

Personally I would have started pushing the issue after a few days but these two recommended to not push it.

thanks Sir Moby, i notice this eve she got very hyper i asked her to relax a bit its not healthy to react like this, she said i wanna do it, but i cant get my mint of that man under that car, i think i will do it like you say, drive her to school and talk into her, a friend of her said, finally something happend around here, but then he didnt saw it happen, thats totally different, i feel pitty for her, but i am gonna try it the way you said, again thanks for the advice))))))

[MrYum]

Originally Posted by SirMoby

I took the liberty of chatting with a school psychologist (Susan a few houses down) and someone studying to be a school psychologist (my lovely wife) and they both had the same advice.

1. This is very traumatic. It's not like falling off a horse and bruising your butt. It's a gruesome death or near death. Be patient.

2. Drive her to school for a few days and see how she reacts going past that spot.

3. Try to get her into happy situations involving bikes (some people recommended taking her on a bike ride yourself) but don't push it.

Personally I would have started pushing the issue after a few days but these two recommended to not push it.

Very cool of you to do that Moby

[JustRobert]

Originally Posted by MrYum

Very cool of you to do that Moby

I second that as well, very kind of you indeed

[docholly]

I like the idea of taking her on fun rides.. or maybe you can ride your bike with her to school for a few times as well.

that's a hard thing to see even as an adult.

and i don't subscribe to the thought process that just because it was done to us as children (see jugg's post) that it's right because look how fucked up all of us are.. *rolling eyes*.. perhaps if our parents had taken the time to actually TALK to us instead of everything being a fucking secret (thats for those over like 35) maybe it would be a better world.. OR maybe not..

and for the record:

Originally Posted by juggernaut

But I honestly have this feeling that if you drive her she is going to be worse off. Some place in the back of her head she will think daddy will take care of everything bad in life, which we all know won't happen.

Stu is MOMMY not Daddy..

[babymaker]

Originally Posted by SirMoby

I took the liberty of chatting with a school psychologist (Susan a few houses down) and someone studying to be a school psychologist (my lovely wife) and they both had the same advice.

1. This is very traumatic. It's not like falling off a horse and bruising your butt. It's a gruesome death or near death. Be patient.

2. Drive her to school for a few days and see how she reacts going past that spot.

3. Try to get her into happy situations involving bikes (some people recommended taking her on a bike ride yourself) but don't push it.

Personally I would have started pushing the issue after a few days but these two recommended to not push it.

Now that's what i call service

[virgohippy]

Originally Posted by SirMoby

I took the liberty of chatting with a school psychologist (Susan a few houses down) and someone studying to be a school psychologist (my lovely wife) and they both had the same advice.

1. This is very traumatic. It's not like falling off a horse and bruising your butt. It's a gruesome death or near death. Be patient.

2. Drive her to school for a few days and see how she reacts going past that spot.

3. Try to get her into happy situations involving bikes (some people recommended taking her on a bike ride yourself) but don't push it.

Personally I would have started pushing the issue after a few days but these two recommended to not push it.

Probably less potential for emotional scarring if you do it nice and easy that way.