How to deal with this?

[MrYum]

Originally Posted by virgohippy

I assume you're saying the old man got killed?

Death is a pretty traumatic thing, but I agree with kitty_kate, remind your daughter that life is about taking risks. Use this as an opportunity to impress the importance of wearing a helmet, and being extra careful.

But, IMO, helping her to avoid her fear, by driving her, will probably do more harm later than good now.

My father (the good one) could be a real hard-ass about stuff like this sometimes. His philosophy on life was when something scary happens you confront it right away... if you wait, it'll overwhelm you. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to confront your fear. If you confront it immediately, even just a little bit, at least you'll be able to do something later.

I don't think I'd have the fortitude to handle life if it wasn't for that hard-ass philosophy of his.

If I were in your position I'd tell her she needs to get on her bike and ride, if only for a short distance. Down the street one block, or something, is fine. But there's no way I'd let her stay off of her bike completely.

Biking is something she enjoyed. Being a bit cruel now will insure that she continues to enjoy it later.

Geez, that's pretty sound advice from a Hippy

Seriously Stu...I'd have to agree that it's best for her to get right back on that horse and ride. She's old enough to realize that life does come with some risk. The important thing is to minimize that risk by being smart and being careful.

Sit down and talk to her in a way only mom can...she'll get it. After all, she must be pretty smart...she's got you for a mom

[stuveltje]

Originally Posted by MrYum

Geez, that's pretty sound advice from a Hippy

Seriously Stu...I'd have to agree that it's best for her to get right back on that horse and ride. She's old enough to realize that life does come with some risk. The important thing is to minimize that risk by being smart and being careful.

Sit down and talk to her in a way only mom can...she'll get it. After all, she must be pretty smart...she's got you for a mom

grin your sweet MrYum, but you know these times are different then when i was kid, if it depends my kids then i am very protected, this time isnt like the old days, i know i was 7 and drive on my bike everywhere i wanted to go, i forbid my kids to drive everywhere when they had the age of 7, the fast driving from cars and more stuff, i think i have bin over protected, how can you talk a vision out of the head of your kid seeing a man bleeding under a car and his head by that spinning wheel, still i think she will manage it, but not right away, i cant ask that from her, she is still a kid.