Amusing experiment in online dating - maybe some useful info here?

Bill · 2012-07-01, 07:08 PM

http://jonmillward.com/blog/attracti...ng-experiment/

If this experiment has shown anything, it’s that men online face extreme competition with other men in getting noticed by women, especially the very attractive women.
So, what’s the best possible message a man could send to stand out from the crowd and wow the woman? I decided to write what I thought would be a very good first message and send it to the most attractive woman on OKCupid I could find (after a 3-minute browse).
The message needed to:

• Demonstrate creativity, intelligence and a great sense of humour
• Be totally different to anything she may have received before
• Be obviously unique and not a cut-and-paste job
• Show that I’ve read her profile and absorbed facts about her
• Not be needy!

I ended up writing a very long message that weaved lots of facts from the recipient’s profile into a faux-news script, as if news readers were talking about her live on television. As she read the message, she’d notice more and more clever references to her hobbies, dress sense and so on.
Here’s what I sent.

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And here, happily, is her reply.

ecchi · 2012-07-02, 06:09 AM

The thing that struck me was that in both countries, in both male and female profiles, the person who got the most messages was not the most attractive, but the second most attractive. As though the people looking for dates knew their limits, and were not aiming too high!

javbucks · 2012-07-03, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ecchi

The thing that struck me was that in both countries, in both male and female profiles, the person who got the most messages was not the most attractive, but the second most attractive. As though the people looking for dates knew their limits, and were not aiming too high!

We only know what we want in relation to other things. Plus most guys fail at dating and pick up they just sent out hundreds of canned copy-paste messages hoping to get laid. The guys who truly and genuinely don't slobber and idolize on women around him will have them eating out of his hands.

Half of the game is the chase and these poor guys spill their entire hearts in the first message.

2012-07-01, 07:08 PM	#1
Bill Selling porn allows me to stay in a constant state of Bliss - ain't that a trip! Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 3,914	Amusing experiment in online dating - maybe some useful info here? http://jonmillward.com/blog/attracti...ng-experiment/ If this experiment has shown anything, it’s that men online face extreme competition with other men in getting noticed by women, especially the very attractive women. So, what’s the best possible message a man could send to stand out from the crowd and wow the woman? I decided to write what I thought would be a very good first message and send it to the most attractive woman on OKCupid I could find (after a 3-minute browse). The message needed to: • Demonstrate creativity, intelligence and a great sense of humour • Be totally different to anything she may have received before • Be obviously unique and not a cut-and-paste job • Show that I’ve read her profile and absorbed facts about her • Not be needy! I ended up writing a very long message that weaved lots of facts from the recipient’s profile into a faux-news script, as if news readers were talking about her live on television. As she read the message, she’d notice more and more clever references to her hobbies, dress sense and so on. Here’s what I sent. *** And here, happily, is her reply.

2012-07-02, 06:09 AM	#2
ecchi Banned Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: About to be evicted!!!! Posts: 4,082	The thing that struck me was that in both countries, in both male and female profiles, the person who got the most messages was *not* the most attractive, but the second most attractive. As though the people looking for dates knew their limits, and were not aiming too high!