I turned my son in

JustRobert · 2006-07-11, 12:45 PM

Sue,

My heart goes out to you. You had to make an extremely hard decision as a parent. I respect you for doing what you thought was best for your young adult.

It is so much better than the rest of the parents that look the other way and then blame their community, government, tv, internet, porn or anybody they can instead of taking responsibility as a parent. Parenting is a tough job!

Big Hugs go out to you!

vmp22 · 2006-07-11, 02:37 PM

thanks for sharing that Sue.

although i dont have any kids and therefore cant completely know how painful that can be, i feel you did the right thing. i have a cousin who in high school was hanging around the wrong crowd and always getting in trouble. he got busted after high school and went to jail. after he came he was a completely different person (for the better).

he went back to school and got a job and he appreciated his family after that.

i hope this will be an inspiration for you and your family during those tough times.

ecchi · 2006-07-11, 02:43 PM

Sue - I spent about two years of my life as a manager of a video store in one of the worst areas of South London. Many of the kids there were doing things as bad or worse, neither the parents or the police did much to stop many of them. Talking to customers, all of them had stories to tell of people they knew who either ended up with 20 year or life sentenced, or ended up dead. The reason they ended up dead or spending most of their life in jail was because nothing scared them when they were young. The area is so rough that the police work on a "only arrest someone if it is really bad" policy, something liker 'dealing' they ignored. The parents did not care enough to do something about it, so the kids began to believe they were untouchable. The result was either getting killed by a rival, or eventually committing a crime that put them in jail for most of their life.

So don't you listen to anyone who tells you did a bad thing. Apart from anything else, you saved your kid's life. I have no idea how your son will react when this is over. I doubt if he will thank you at first. He may never forgive you. He may even never talk to you again. It will be hard for you, but always remember, you did the right thing for your son.

Those who are saying that they would never turn their kid in are saying that they think more of themselves than they do their kid. They are saying they would rather see their kid dead in a pool of blood than suffer the shame of being an informer. Don't listen to them.

My heart goes out to you because you are liable to have a hard time from your son. You are also liable to have a hard time from some of your friends. But always, always remember, you did the right thing for your son.

karomesis · 2006-07-11, 03:48 PM

While hindsight is always 20/20, I can tell you that depending on the amount he had on him, it may not even be a felony, it doesn't sound like he was at escobar level dealing, so he'll probably get a few months and probation, if that.

what's more important is how HE deals with the aftermath, does he change his attitude? or continue in folly? When life gives you lemons....plant some seeds and start an orchard.....grow them to maturity......and bring the orchard public in an IPO

I teach my kids the worst thing you can say is.......I can't. You make yourself a failure before you even start.

2006-07-11, 12:45 PM	#1
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2006-07-11, 02:43 PM	#3
ecchi Banned Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: About to be evicted!!!! Posts: 4,082	Sue - I spent about two years of my life as a manager of a video store in one of the worst areas of South London. Many of the kids there were doing things as bad or worse, neither the parents or the police did much to stop many of them. Talking to customers, all of them had stories to tell of people they knew who either ended up with 20 year or life sentenced, or ended up dead. The reason they ended up dead or spending most of their life in jail was because nothing scared them when they were young. The area is so rough that the police work on a "only arrest someone if it is really bad" policy, something liker 'dealing' they ignored. The parents did not care enough to do something about it, so the kids began to believe they were untouchable. The result was either getting killed by a rival, or eventually committing a crime that put them in jail for most of their life. So don't you listen to anyone who tells you did a bad thing. Apart from anything else, you saved your kid's life. I have no idea how your son will react when this is over. I doubt if he will thank you at first. He may never forgive you. He may even never talk to you again. It will be hard for you, but always remember, you did the right thing for your son. Those who are saying that they would never turn their kid in are saying that they think more of themselves than they do their kid. They are saying they would rather see their kid dead in a pool of blood than suffer the shame of being an informer. Don't listen to them. My heart goes out to you because you are liable to have a hard time from your son. You are also liable to have a hard time from some of your friends. But always, always remember, you did the right thing for your son.

2006-07-11, 03:48 PM	#4
karomesis Are you sure this is the Sci-Fi Convention? It's full of nerds! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: pepperell,Massachusetts. Posts: 264	While hindsight is always 20/20, I can tell you that depending on the amount he had on him, it may not even be a felony, it doesn't sound like he was at escobar level dealing, so he'll probably get a few months and probation, if that. what's more important is how HE deals with the aftermath, does he change his attitude? or continue in folly? When life gives you lemons....plant some seeds and start an orchard.....grow them to maturity......and bring the orchard public in an IPO I teach my kids the worst thing you can say is.......I can't. You make yourself a failure before you even start.