How to deal with this?

stuveltje · 2006-09-10, 07:48 AM

we did go on the bike yesterday (saturday), she didnt mind that, she only didnt wanna drive the route where the accident happend, all went fine, we did saw she was a bit nerveuse, but we told her if you wanna stop then tell so and we will stop.We talked alot about the accident with her yesterday, indeed explained again it was a freaky accident which will only happen ones in a lifetime, some minutes ago she asked me if she could walk to the place where the accident happen, she didnt wanted me to go there with her, but she was going there with her friends who also saw it all ( i have noticed she talked alot with her friends about it) i told her she could go there, i dont know if it was the right choise, but if that is what she and her friends wants and it will help her to deal with what she saw then its alright with me.

virgohippy · 2006-09-10, 02:07 PM

Glad to hear she's strong enough to take the initiative herself.

And talking with her friends a lot seems like a good thing too. Talking about the experience openly with other people who understand (like others who were there) can certainly help the healing process.

stuveltje · 2006-09-10, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by virgohippy

Glad to hear she's strong enough to take the initiative herself.

And talking with her friends a lot seems like a good thing too. Talking about the experience openly with other people who understand (like others who were there) can certainly help the healing process.

she knows i understand (heay i am her mom, mom always understand

) i think she handles this very well and i will lett her deal with it in her own way, she is right about the part " you didnt see it happen" her friends did, so if she wanna talk with them about it and they can find a way in their own to deal with it....then that would be great and she knows i will be there for her if she needs me, and a part will be driving her to school tomorrow

she will manage it, but i am glad i could get advice on this board about the topic, you know we have a saying here in holland "2 know more then one" that counds for this board, with all the postings that gave me a great help to get my daughter thru this and ofcourse her own way of dealing with this!

2006-09-10, 07:48 AM	#1
stuveltje Live and learn. And take very careful notes! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Sunny Holland Posts: 6,157	we did go on the bike yesterday (saturday), she didnt mind that, she only didnt wanna drive the route where the accident happend, all went fine, we did saw she was a bit nerveuse, but we told her if you wanna stop then tell so and we will stop.We talked alot about the accident with her yesterday, indeed explained again it was a freaky accident which will only happen ones in a lifetime, some minutes ago she asked me if she could walk to the place where the accident happen, she didnt wanted me to go there with her, but she was going there with her friends who also saw it all ( i have noticed she talked alot with her friends about it) i told her she could go there, i dont know if it was the right choise, but if that is what she and her friends wants and it will help her to deal with what she saw then its alright with me. __________________ Canadian Sexlinks - submit Erotica search -submit

2006-09-10, 02:07 PM	#2
virgohippy Madness is like gravity. All it takes is a little... push. Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: California Posts: 1,679	Glad to hear she's strong enough to take the initiative herself. And talking with her friends a lot seems like a good thing too. Talking about the experience openly with other people who understand (like others who were there) can certainly help the healing process. __________________ ~Warm and Fuzzy.