Politics and the Adult Business :)

Jim · 2004-11-07, 11:19 AM

I have always said that besides politics, this is the only business where you can call your partners, competitors, friends and enemies pieces of shit in public. And, while it seems to be necessary to be able to do that just to keep everyone honest, I do long for the days when the only form of communication between webmasters was email. With the ease of conversation to many people at one time, by the time you realize you are only saying what you are saying because you have lost your temper, it is too late. I have just finished reading my posts and emails from the past several days and I am surprised at myself. People have always said of me that I have the patience of a saint. I have been communicating with webmasters, both good and bad, for almost 8-1/2 years. And, most times I do try to give the benefit of the doubt to someone I am talking to. This last week, I did not. For the people that have had to deal with my little tirades, I apologize. Most people know, I really am a nice guy.

Keyser Soze · 2004-11-07, 12:03 PM

I think most people take it easy on what is said on boards I know I don´t take it to serious if someone calls me a piece of shit on a board but if its in a email or on ICQ I take it personally.
I made some stupid posts on boards where I posted before I thought I rarely do this in email because they tend to be longer and I normally calm down before I press send.

eman · 2004-11-07, 12:19 PM

We all say things we regret.

If a relationship's worth preserving, it will weather the storm.

Useless · 2004-11-07, 02:40 PM

Well Jim, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Your reputation precedes you. I little schmuck like me on the other hand, well that's a different story. I often say things to people on the boards that are terribly direct and harsh, but I mean those things from the bottom of my heart.

It was mentioned on another board, where things have become very angry within the last couple weeks, that this is probably a reaction to the fact that our world has been very tense lately. I think our board personalities have been effected quite adversely by the drama in the 'real' world, so we are not letting things slip on by the way would have in the past.

Do what I do. Blame Bush.

SirMoby · 2004-11-08, 08:46 AM

People say things on chat boards that they would never consider saying in a face to face environment. Being alone and not seeing the body language of others often brings out the darker side of our minds. It's just how it is and I don't think anyone takes it that seriously.

ClubPussy.com · 2004-11-08, 09:02 AM

I think Before I Speak!

I learn that lesson at early age... "Think Before You Speak".
Unfortunally most people do not.

Many Wars and fights would have been prevented, if people only had taken the time time to think just a little bit before releasing a cascade of bad sentiments for others.

Forgive. Forgive those that do not think what they say.

fuck enough peace talking back to whos is who full of shit...

spazlabz · 2004-11-08, 01:02 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by SirMoby
People say things on chat boards that they would never consider saying in a face to face environment. Being alone and not seeing the body language of others often brings out the darker side of our minds. It's just how it is and I don't think anyone takes it that seriously.

LOL I am just the opposite, I wont say things on boards that I would cheerfully say to someones face, esp after all the things i have seen over the past 5 or so years.
Jim, although i was not personally a target of any of your 'tirades' let me exspress my respect for what you wrote in this post.

spaz

Greenguy · 2004-11-10, 08:24 AM

Ditto what Jim said

caringneo · 2004-11-10, 04:14 PM

Nice to see you guys back in good mood.

I agree with ClubPussy. I always felt it is better to, Think before we leap.
Neo

MadMax · 2004-11-10, 05:33 PM

I agree Jim, and BTW I've made good use of the awesome 60 minute editing window on this board |rasta|

Sometimes I don't realize I was an asshole until a half hour after I post something, and most boards only give you like 15 minutes.

The world HAS been very stressful lately, and the fact that many of us had our hopes dashed on election day hasn't helped. I can say this, though: It takes a true gentleman (or lady) to stand up in public and admit when their behavior fell below their personal standards. I've gained new respect for both you and GG, and hopefully one day I'll be big enough in the biz to do some real business with ya!

Useless · 2004-11-10, 07:56 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by MadMax
Sometimes I don't realize I was an asshole until a half hour after I post something, and most boards only give you like 15 minutes.

I need a solid two day edit window.

2004-11-07, 11:19 AM	#1
Jim Banned Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Mohawk, New York Posts: 19,477	Politics and the Adult Business :) I have always said that besides politics, this is the only business where you can call your partners, competitors, friends and enemies pieces of shit in public. And, while it seems to be necessary to be able to do that just to keep everyone honest, I do long for the days when the only form of communication between webmasters was email. With the ease of conversation to many people at one time, by the time you realize you are only saying what you are saying because you have lost your temper, it is too late. I have just finished reading my posts and emails from the past several days and I am surprised at myself. People have always said of me that I have the patience of a saint. I have been communicating with webmasters, both good and bad, for almost 8-1/2 years. And, most times I do try to give the benefit of the doubt to someone I am talking to. This last week, I did not. For the people that have had to deal with my little tirades, I apologize. Most people know, I really am a nice guy.

2004-11-07, 12:03 PM	#2
Keyser Soze Oh! I haven't changed since high school and suddenly I am uncool Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 252	I think most people take it easy on what is said on boards I know I don´t take it to serious if someone calls me a piece of shit on a board but if its in a email or on ICQ I take it personally. I made some stupid posts on boards where I posted before I thought I rarely do this in email because they tend to be longer and I normally calm down before I press send. __________________ RedPass questions or issues: email michael.olsen@redpass.com ICQ 628746487

2004-11-07, 02:40 PM	#4
Useless Certified Nice Person Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Dirty Undies, NY Posts: 11,268	Well Jim, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Your reputation precedes you. I little schmuck like me on the other hand, well that's a different story. I often say things to people on the boards that are terribly direct and harsh, but I mean those things from the bottom of my heart. It was mentioned on another board, where things have become very angry within the last couple weeks, that this is probably a reaction to the fact that our world has been very tense lately. I think our board personalities have been effected quite adversely by the drama in the 'real' world, so we are not letting things slip on by the way would have in the past. Do what I do. Blame Bush. __________________ Click here to purchase a bridge I'm selling.

2004-11-08, 09:02 AM	#6
ClubPussy.com A woman is like beer. They look good, they smell good, and you'd step over your own mother just to get one! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: The Deep South!!! Posts: 50	I think Before I Speak! I think Before I Speak! I learn that lesson at early age... "Think Before You Speak". Unfortunally most people do not. Many Wars and fights would have been prevented, if people only had taken the time time to think just a little bit before releasing a cascade of bad sentiments for others. Forgive. Forgive those that do not think what they say. fuck enough peace talking back to whos is who full of shit... __________________ ....

2004-11-10, 08:24 AM	#8
Greenguy The Original Greenguy (Est'd 1996) & AVN HOF Member - I Crop Pics For Thumbs In My Sleep Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Blasdell, NY (shithole suburb south of Buffalo) Posts: 41,929	Ditto what Jim said __________________ Promote POV Porn Cash By Building & Submitting Galleries to the Porn Luv Network

2004-11-07, 12:19 PM	#3
eman Solipsists of the world unite Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: xxx axis Posts: 639	We all say things we regret. If a relationship's worth preserving, it will weather the storm.

2004-11-08, 08:46 AM	#5
SirMoby Jim? I heard he's a dirty pornographer. Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 2,706	People say things on chat boards that they would never consider saying in a face to face environment. Being alone and not seeing the body language of others often brings out the darker side of our minds. It's just how it is and I don't think anyone takes it that seriously.

2004-11-10, 04:14 PM	#9
caringneo Oh! I haven't changed since high school and suddenly I am uncool Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: PLANET EARTH Posts: 259	Nice to see you guys back in good mood. I agree with ClubPussy. I always felt it is better to, Think before we leap. Neo __________________ Anal Gays

2004-11-10, 05:33 PM	#10
MadMax "Without evil there can be no good, so it must be good to be evil sometimes" ~ Satan Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Motor City, baby, where carjacking was invented! Now GIMME THOSE SHOES! Posts: 2,385	I agree Jim, and BTW I've made good use of the awesome 60 minute editing window on this board \|rasta\| Sometimes I don't realize I was an asshole until a half hour after I post something, and most boards only give you like 15 minutes. The world HAS been very stressful lately, and the fact that many of us had our hopes dashed on election day hasn't helped. I can say this, though: It takes a true gentleman (or lady) to stand up in public and admit when their behavior fell below their personal standards. I've gained new respect for both you and GG, and hopefully one day I'll be big enough in the biz to do some real business with ya!